Never Satisfied why Nerdy black men can't find happiness

bonsaiiKITTEN said:
*sigh* You nerd. :p (I kid.)

I'm a western transplant here in the south, and I'm speaking about a minority of "those" girls that give otherwise nice southerners a bad name. I get what you're saying about perpetuating negative stereotypes.
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Yes, there are many that give a good southern girl a bad name. But many of those girls are also transplants who claim to be southern cause they live here. :smt101

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PinkMartini said:
I'd rather have that nerdy black man than the jerk who thinks he knows everything, or the one who thinks he is the next big thing in hip-hop.

I had nerdy friends in school. Though, I was with the 'in-crowd'. I was friends with almost every cheerleader, jock, prep, and def all the bad girls ;) . But those nerds could help me with more things than my other friends could. They were about the only ones who could keep my mind interested in things.
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oh yes yes my ex was like that....thought he was the next big thing...cream of the crop etc. and annoying as hell, he had the EGO the size of like, a mountain!!!

nerds are so much humbler and cute and loveable!
 
Andrae, how could we not love you!? :smt060

theladyblaze said:
oh yes yes my ex was like that....thought he was the next big thing...cream of the crop etc. and annoying as hell, he had the EGO the size of like, a mountain!!!

nerds are so much humbler and cute and loveable!
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I wonder if my ex and yours were one in the same! lol Let's just say that relationship didn't go to far. Also, he was one of the almighty know-it-alls. He constatly had to 'prove' himself. (And he was usually wrong! :smt081) And he could never keep a story straight. It changed every 20 minutes. He's start talking and I would :smt015 ...

I'll take the loveable, huggable, kissable nerd anyday! :smt049
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
I wonder (and I know white girls like this, primarily southern girls) what these women actually want. They claim they don't want "nerds," but balk they don't want redneck idiots/thugs. I guess it's the ol' dichotomy you hear men talking about with women: Not wanting a "brain," but not wanting a ho.
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PinkMartini said:
<--- Southern Girl

I really don't need a redneck. Related to too many of them as it is. lol

Can't stand the drug dealers and wanna be thugs either. Makes me want to choke them and yell "Don't bitch about stereotypes and then BE that stereotype!" Grrr.
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I think people like this just like to hear themselves talk. They don't think about half of the stuff they say.

bonsaiiKITTEN said:
*sigh* You nerd. :p (I kid.)

I'm a western transplant here in the south, and I'm speaking about a minority of "those" girls that give otherwise nice southerners a bad name. I get what you're saying about perpetuating negative stereotypes.
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Agreed. There are sooooo many different attitudes in the south now because so many new types of people are moving here. There is no such thing as the "Southern Bell" anymore. They are extinct.
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
If I marry a janitor happily, I invite you to the wedding to come and laugh.
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I just had a job offering up in smoky mountains so I might hold you to that. LoL
Nah I am not moving to Tennessee for a job unless of course it comes with some hefty package. LoL
 
Don't be fooled, she is not talking about Black male "nerds", or a Black version of what a White nerd is a la Steve Urkel.

She's conflating "swagerless" Black men who don't behave like thugs and masking them as nerds merely to find a parallel to the numerous Black women who say they can't find happiness.

What passes as a "Black nerd" is merely the norm for other groups of men who see intelligence and the pursuit thereof as merely an extension of themselves, not some separate path outside the realm of their culture merely pursued for a paycheck.

Black men who have voiced these issues are self assured enough to have tried with these Black women; real Black nerds never bothered to, due to their lack of social interaction/skills with women, thus one of the reason they are considered nerds.

As Nikon so brilliantly stated, if these Black nerds were to date their so-called social equivalents it would be these slovenly, rotundess, "fried or fake" Black women, but unfortunately these women, "body confidence and all" are trying to net Reggie Bush or some "baller" way out of their league. They don't want "swagerless" Black men either, and for the so called Black female "nerds" (those who don't buy that swagger crap either) many of them want White men (See Karma's statements).
 
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I don't care if he is a nerd like Urkel or just some guy who doesn't have that 'baller swag'.

When I was in school and someone was called a nerd their were usually the ones who didn't fit the 'norm', ie the jock, prep, redneck, gangstas, whatever. It didn't matter.

Because of 'social status' and being young and immature I wouldn't have dated them then, but I learned there was more to someone then what 'label' they were given. I've come to appreciate and loves those nerds. Atleast, they stay true to themselves and don't give a damn about what society thinks.
 
PinkMartini said:
Andrae, how could we not love you!? :smt060



I wonder if my ex and yours were one in the same! lol Let's just say that relationship didn't go to far. Also, he was one of the almighty know-it-alls. He constatly had to 'prove' himself. (And he was usually wrong! :smt081) And he could never keep a story straight. It changed every 20 minutes. He's start talking and I would :smt015 ...

I'll take the loveable, huggable, kissable nerd anyday! :smt049
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LOL pink! If he was a trini trying to pass as american tryin to have swagger while bein a deadbeat daddy
then yes LOL
but yeah. he wasn't young either that's the funny part!! he was 32 when I dated him, he's now 37 and still hasn't changed ONE bit!

I'll take the NERD over him ANY DAY!

lol hypestyle - i can't help it, i'm a need/geek at heart....yes yes despite the looks, i know it sends men for a run LOL then they find out that i'm a freakin comic book geek and they're like WHAT? lol.
 
theladyblaze said:
LOL pink! If he was a trini trying to pass as american tryin to have swagger while bein a deadbeat daddy
then yes LOL
but yeah. he wasn't young either that's the funny part!! he was 32 when I dated him, he's now 37 and still hasn't changed ONE bit!

I'll take the NERD over him ANY DAY!

lol hypestyle - i can't help it, i'm a need/geek at heart....yes yes despite the looks, i know it sends men for a run LOL then they find out that i'm a freakin comic book geek and they're like WHAT? lol.
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lmao ... Nope, mine was a white guy, but just about everything else fits his description 'cept he is 32 now ... :smt043
 
Soulthinker said:
No woman is going to date a brother like Steve Urkel. Not even the Eastern European girls who may like the Polka music he plays.
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andrae09 said:
That's not true. You never know what a person might be into. I remmeber one swedish girl I dated was into me just because she loved the sound of my voice.
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I know it was just a TV show, but didn't Urkel have Myra?

Hypestyle said:
bizarre....seems like the author of the blog put all 'brainy' black men into the 'Shelton' from Big Bang Theory category, who tends to be openly abrasive towards 'normal' guys and defiantly eccentric to the point of frustration from even other brainy guys (newsflash, it's not exclusive to black 'nerds').. and proudly mentions that she never dated 'nerds', and doesn't apologize for it.. zoinks...
..and of course, based on her worldview, what "normal" black woman categorizes herself as 'nerdy', is heavily into sci-fi/fantasy-novel/video-game/comics culture, is unconcerned with high-end fashion brands, prefers rock & pop to neo-soul or gospel, isn't interested in a diamond ring because she knows the dark side of the diamond/gems industry, likes to watch hockey, and has other hobbies that don't skew 'black' like hiking/camping, scuba diving, whatever.. she would probably be considered a 'wannabe' by the blog author..
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karmacoma. said:
She neglects to mention that nerdy black girls are chasing white boys. Show me an intelligent, non-ghetto sista into anime, rock music, comics, etc. and I will guarantee you she's either with a white boy or wants one.
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bonsaiiKITTEN said:
They exist; I have a friend like this. And her boyfriend is indeed white.
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The single ones can be found on any interracial dating site.com geared towards bw. I've seen their profiles and caught myself thinking, "she seems cool" (the ones that aren't revenge dating, that is).

On a different note, as bonsai pointed out, those bw are also the ones that would probably be genuine friends and acquaintances of ladies on this site who date bm.
 
Danke said:
On a different note, as bonsai pointed out, those bw are also the ones that would probably be genuine friends and acquaintances of ladies on this site who date bm.
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My close friend Di is a nerdy bw and she dates all different races of men. She will be the last one to make comments on a ww dating a bm.

One of the many reasons I love hangin with that girl!
 
It would be hilarious if the blogger traced the link back to this thread to find all these cute white girls giving love and support to all the "nerds" she bashed.
 
karmacoma. said:
It would be hilarious if the blogger traced the link back to this thread to find all these cute white girls giving love and support to all the "nerds" she bashed.
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And she DID have a question that she thought black "nerds" could never answer.
It's been answered here.
 
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