Never Satisfied why Nerdy black men can't find happiness

EspyInHeels said:
Sadly this is a concept that appears to be foreign to an awful lot of people. I'm not sure it's solely a result of being burned in the past, I think it may be the way people are raised as well? Children have to be taught to respect others when they're growing up, and it seems a lot aren't getting that message. I've always told my kids what my family taught me, you give everyone respect until they give you a reason not to. I also don't believe in holding anyone responsible for the bad experiences I've had with someone else. That's just ridiculous, no two people are identical and it is simply inappropriate to hold someone accountable for the mistakes of others. If I did that, based upon the people I've known in my life, I wouldn't talk to anyone, and that would be tragic because there are some really great people out there.
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Thank you and I think she missed out of some great people and she is pissed off at the world.
 
theladyblaze said:
it's true tho, i've seen too many who want a man who's educated. But not a nerd. ? How does that make sense? There are some that are, and there are some that aren't!! Everyone's definition of 'nerd' is different so who is she to say?
I read one or two of her others posts and I agree, she is a VERY bitter woman. I have been there myself but I have never let it stop me and I continue to be with someone I love.
But you hit it right there, with your statement about loving BW. You love people for who they ARE not their skin colour. As far as I'm concerned, if you don't like someone due to skin colour, that's racist. Plain and simple. She has a lot of hatred against white women on there I have noticed, and a lot of hatred against BM even tho she is with one herself. And if you didn't love your momma or your aunts, or nieces because they were BW you have some issues but I find that most BM don't. Most BM still like their momma's and female members of family. It's just certain BW that leave an bitter taste in their mouth.

THank goodness not every BW is like this or we'd have some major issues! My bestie is mixed herself, and has NONE of this hatred in her! I think a lot of it has to do with the backgrounds that most of these women have grown up in - the BM are dogs, they treat women like crap, they abandoned their children, etc and therefore - she writes like that, that's my theory.

Which is stupid, cuz I know lots of white families like that too, and we WW just tend to move on instead of getting angry at WM for not being with us in the end. I could care less who ends up with who. Maybe that's the difference between us and BW. I can be bitter when I want but I'm bitter at people, not a WHOLE gender/ethnicity!
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She is very bitter she lost out on someone she called a nerd now he is doing good for his self and may be dating a non black woman. I had to let the bitterness go I had with black women or I would not be able to date now. It is sad that some people hold on to that hate. So many sisters sadly that angry black woman sickness they are really angry at their selves for thier bad choices in men but alas they take it out on all black men instead of the one that hurt them.
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
It looks good for all your work, Eric. :)

I think a lot of people here are in your boat, although I can only speak for myself: I don't date BM because I hate WM, but I'm tired of the power struggles that seem too common with Anglo Saxon men. There's no "need" for a man. It's purely a want, and I think a lot of WM are intimidated by that in the same way BW are intimidated by that. I feel like if I'm interested in being in a relationship with someone, it's kind of up to me to "market" myself. I think people as a whole would be better off if they thought that way. Then again, I'm selfishly focusing on myself at the moment and rather than putting my foot forward into the dating pool, focusing on school, getting in shape, and taking my down time to shop, watch movies, read, etc.

I understand the bashing - I hear it from WM that WW are too stubborn and selfish, yet they complain when women aren't compliant we're gold diggers. Hilariously, the guys crying about gold diggers often aren't making that much.
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LOL yep the ones talking about Gold diggers work at wall mart making 12 an hour LOL. And that is good you are working on you that is what I did for my self got in shape got my golden gloves in boxing my 5th dan black belt in Tae Kwon Do I worked on me then I had no problems finding an date.
 
erictbrown1 said:
She is very bitter she lost out on someone she called a nerd now he is doing good for his self and may be dating a non black woman. I had to let the bitterness go I had with black women or I would not be able to date now. It is sad that some people hold on to that hate. So many sisters sadly that angry black woman sickness they are really angry at their selves for thier bad choices in men but alas they take it out on all black men instead of the one that hurt them.
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Took th' words right outta my mouth, ya did!

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erictbrown1 said:
LOL yep the ones talking about Gold diggers work at wall mart making 12 an hour LOL. And that is good you are working on you that is what I did for my self got in shape got my golden gloves in boxing my 5th dan black belt in Tae Kwon Do I worked on me then I had no problems finding an date.
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Don't hate. They get 10% off that Wal-Mart bling.

Good for you. Always admired the raw power behind Tae Kwon Do.
 
erictbrown1 said:
LOL yep the ones talking about Gold diggers work at wall mart making 12 an hour LOL. And that is good you are working on you that is what I did for my self got in shape got my golden gloves in boxing my 5th dan black belt in Tae Kwon Do I worked on me then I had no problems finding an date.
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That's really good fam gotta commend you. Getting your fifth degree blackbelt is no small feet. I'm working on my second degree in Oyama Karate and its incredibly brutal.
I totally agree with you on working on yourself first too. I've said it before if you're clean smell nice and stay in shape somebody is gonna want you.
 
erictbrown1 said:
LOL yep the ones talking about Gold diggers work at wall mart making 12 an hour LOL. And that is good you are working on you that is what I did for my self got in shape got my golden gloves in boxing my 5th dan black belt in Tae Kwon Do I worked on me then I had no problems finding an date.
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Nope the ones complaining are the ones that are flipping burgers at McDonalds ;) ... I'll atleast flirt with the guys working at Wal-Mart :smt043

The author does seem completely bitter though. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. I'm guessing she didn't get what she wanted and now she is going to take it out on whomever she wants no matter the consequence ... if there is any.

eric an bK ... Good for y'all taking time for yourselves.
 
PinkMartini said:
Nope the ones complaining are the ones that are flipping burgers at McDonalds ;) ... I'll atleast flirt with the guys working at Wal-Mart :smt043

The author does seem completely bitter though. Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. I'm guessing she didn't get what she wanted and now she is going to take it out on whomever she wants no matter the consequence ... if there is any.

eric an bK ... Good for y'all taking time for yourselves.
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The Jill Scott article is great example of what you're saying
 
andrae09 said:
I totally agree with you on working on yourself first too. I've said it before if you're clean smell nice and stay in shape somebody is gonna want you.
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Hygiene cannot be underestimated. It's so important.

PinkMartini said:
Nope the ones complaining are the ones that are flipping burgers at McDonalds ;) ... I'll atleast flirt with the guys working at Wal-Mart :smt043
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HA @ McD's. So painfully true. You know we're just chasing those fast food dollars. ;)
 
andrae09 said:
I've said it before if you're clean smell nice and stay in shape somebody is gonna want you.
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I agree. I don't want to lay down next to someone who smells like the dumpster out back.

bonsaiiKITTEN said:
HA @ McD's. So painfully true. You know we're just chasing those fast food dollars. ;)
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Lol. What's even more painful is when they were voted most likely to succed in HS ... :smt043
 
bonsaiiKITTEN said:
Hygiene cannot be underestimated. It's so important.
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And even *then*.....

...there are SOME "Sistas"....that, when a Black fella is well-groomed---NOT "metrosexual", but NOT the archetypal "Gangsta" or "Thug", either---but in a suit & tie and clean cut....they make him out to be "queenly"..

Even down to his WEARING GLASSES...

I personally observed it myself, some years or so ago when I was still living Stateside..


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