I both agree and disagree.
Obviously, the fair/unfair balance strongly tips in men's favor. Obviously sexism still plays a huge part in our society.
But the same sexist mythology that supports the oppression of women has side effects that don't benefit men. And regardless of where the problems come from, it's still a problem when any grown person is unable to protect themselves.
I've had male friends who were battered. They will never call themselves this, but it's exactly the same as when women are beaten by their men. They blame themselves, they talk about how their woman is going to change, they hide their injuries. And when they tell their friends, it's all laughed off or seen as "normal" even if the story includes destruction of property and the use of weapons.
Men are taught never to raise a hand to a woman, even if she is attacking you. That makes them defenseless if a woman does choose to attack them.
Cheating is no excuse for violence. Too many women forget that alleged cheating was once the number one excuse for battering/killing your wife. There is no excuse, ever, for physically harming someone you are supposed to care about.
Just as in the past few decades, the issue of domestic violence against men had to framed to show that the wife you are beating is someone's daughter or kid sister or mom, we must remember that every husband is someone's son or brother or father. While it can be easy to come up with justifications for hitting one's husband, how many of those justifications make as much sense when it's another woman attacking your son?
The thing is, we started with an unequal system, and we are adjusting from there. So we compensate for imbalances with other imbalances. When women are treated like children by society & their own families & husbands, then bad behavior is excused just as you would for a child. Even if a 5-year-old burns down the house, you don't hold them accountable, because they're a 5-year-old.
But we've learned as a society that women aren't mentally or emotionally inferior to men. If as Women, we want to receive all the rights of Men, we must also take the same responsibilities. That means that if we don't want to be treated as unable to control our emotions, we must hold ourselves to the same emotional standard we hold them to. There was a time when a Man who walked in on his wife with another woman could kill them both and get away with it on "temporary insanity." That's no longer the case. Cheating is not an adequate excuse for Men to commit physical violence against their spouse, and it shouldn't be for Women either.
Women are predominately smaller than Men, but that's not a universal. Nor is it acceptable for small men to beat large women. Nor does size matter very much if one person is prevented from protecting themselves by social convention.
Believe me, I agree that it can be tiresome when some Men only notice gender inequality in the rare times when it doesn't favor them. But domestic abuse should always be condemned. Always. Even when the person committing that violence is a Woman. All of the inequality and oppression we still deal with does not justify beating someone you love. Nothing does.
. but hell no, you didnt say that! There is nothing to understand, what?, that you are not enough? Then you shouldnt be married.