Turn Offs

karmacoma. said:
Naw I'd say 80%-20% or even 90%-10%. .
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No idea how to break it down. It came to me as a huge surprise to see that it wasn't really the BW who were at the bottom of the US social ladder, but in fact the BM. So it's kinda understandable where the dissatisfaction is coming from on each part.

karmacoma. said:
Remember, it's politically incorrect for a man to air his grievances with women, but women complaining about men is a billion-dollar industry aka double-standard.
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Is it not PC? Then how come I keep hearing it from men all the time.
And how is "women complaining about men" a billion dollar industry - that's certainly new to me. (Or do you mean the Tyra show and the Essence magazine?)
 
Maroon, love ya to bits, but you're not American so you have no perspective on this topic unless there are a lot of BM and BW in Latvia that you've observed.
 
Ok, you've got a point, onyx, however you don't have to live in the States to see it... but alright, I digress.
 
Turn-ons = Smart girls, big girls, small girls, black girls, white girls, red-heads, big booties, small booties, large boobies, small boobies, brunettes with green eyes, tanned chicks, pasty chicks, tall women

Turn offs = who knows?
 
Tinkerbell said:
Big turn off, guys who think they are "God's gift to women."

Sorry Scott, I don't think you meant it that way, it's just they way it came across.
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Just think about it, a MALE, a DUDE, who prefers not to approach women. He lets them come to him. Do these men prefer a woman to pay for their dinner and drinks? do they want to be proposed to by a woman and be given a diamond ring? What's with the feminine men nowadays.:smt086 There's a good dancehall song by Cecile about men who dress like they stole the clothes from their little sister. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OeXiVtGwBa0
 
scott1618 said:
Now I have a quick question for you if you dont mind me asking. The bolded part in the post above you talk of how when black men tell you something about black women that is derived from their experiences you are quick to shut down their generalizations. Now lets look upon these other post of yours below.

Care to show the clear cut difference in the two forms of generalizing? Or in your opinion is it only okay and completely justified if you make sweeping generalizations so long as its done over a computer? Thanks.
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Fair question. My preference for wanting to date black men may seem generalized, and probably is; but like any relationship I've had before dating a black man, if the sex was no good, the relationship did not last long. That's the honest truth. I remember my last relationship with a former white male, the sex was terrible!!! He was fun to be with and we clicked on all levels except the sexual. I was miserable and wanted to just cuddle instead of doing anything more involved. I knew the relationship had to come to a halt when I was tempted to have an affair, something I've never done or ever will do.

I guess you can say, I've opened the "women locker room door." Women talk about sex in details with our female friends and I think we can be worse than some males :o

The difference in the two types of conversation is simply this. While I may do "girls locker room talk" here on the net, I will never bring up such a topic with someone I am just getting to know, or use it as a screening tool, or pick up line for a guy I'm interested in. Bashing one's own race, or any group of people for that matter is in poor taste whether it's meant as a means to impress someone else or in jest.
 
Sir Nose said:
I agree with you. I really don't like it when someone disses a whole race, especially their own. Rather than a WW say "I hate white men", I'd rather hear one say, "I like you".
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Where is an applause icon when I need one. This is what got my attention with my first interracial relationship. It was so cute, so unassuming and sincere. :D
 
flaminghetero said:
BW don't mind hearing WM put down WW..you best believe that...THEY LOVE IT.

And I know damn well WM don't mind hearing sisters talk shit about BM.
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Unfortunately, in the small town mindset I grew up around, the latter was the norm except they were said by whites and it was no big deal. It wasn't until i went away to college and traveled a bit that I was enlightened on what's unacceptable behavior and speech regarding race; especially the black race.
 
TheChosenOne said:
Turn-ons = Smart girls, big girls, small girls, black girls, white girls, red-heads, big booties, small booties, large boobies, small boobies, brunettes with green eyes, tanned chicks, pasty chicks, tall women

Turn offs = who knows?
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Let me answer the turn offs for you....women who are not comfortable in their own skin. You seem to like a confident woman based on your "turn ons" :cool:
 
Tinkerbell said:
Big turn off, guys who think they are "God's gift to women."

Sorry Scott, I don't think you meant it that way, it's just they way it came across.
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Funny, I saw that quote and thought the same thing. Whooaa Scotty! they're lucky to have you pick them huh?
 
YogaGirl said:
Another turn turn off is that subtle reason to want to date me as a white woman as a ticket of acceptance in the "white world" so to speak. I once dated a guy that introduced me to his higher ups at a Christmas party but thought the other colleagues on his level were not worthy of an introduction. There were other instances too.

So what are some of your turn offs when dating the other race? I'd love to hear from both men and woman as I'm sure I'll learn something.
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The above happens to me at times. Please don't assume a lot (Not every) of White Woman doesn’t want to be in the "African American World" as well.

I say African American because I've witness many fond of the African American style and seek out to live it to the fullest even when some African Americans choose not to portray the stereotypical African American that is sensationalized on the media.

I can't say I have any turnoffs that don’t reflect all relationships of all complexions. The more you are categorized as an individual, the less complexion dilemmas will occur.

Cheers!
 
YogaGirl said:
Fair question. My preference for wanting to date black men may seem generalized, and probably is; but like any relationship I've had before dating a black man, if the sex was no good, the relationship did not last long. That's the honest truth. I remember my last relationship with a former white male, the sex was terrible!!! He was fun to be with and we clicked on all levels except the sexual. I was miserable and wanted to just cuddle instead of doing anything more involved. I knew the relationship had to come to a halt when I was tempted to have an affair, something I've never done or ever will do.

I guess you can say, I've opened the "women locker room door." Women talk about sex in details with our female friends and I think we can be worse than some males
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So in short you are using a few examples from your life to generalize white and black men but when you hear a man do the same thing except hes actually decent enough to be open about it you are shocked?

The difference in the two types of conversation is simply this. While I may do "girls locker room talk" here on the net, I will never bring up such a topic with someone I am just getting to know, or use it as a screening tool, or pick up line for a guy I'm interested in. Bashing one's own race, or any group of people for that matter is in poor taste whether it's meant as a means to impress someone else or in jest.
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So just as I said before you think making sweeping generalization is perfectly fine just so long as its "in the girls locker room" but when a man is open to you about his generalizations formed from experiences you are shocked? Hypocrisy at its finest id say. As I said before im not a fan of negtive or positive generalizing but if I was a fan I wouldnt be a hypocrite about it and then try to save face by saying "I only do it in the ladies locker room". Either way, have at whatever works for you.
 
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Tinkerbell said:
Big turn off, guys who think they are "God's gift to women."

Sorry Scott, I don't think you meant it that way, it's just they way it came across.
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Nope, I dont consider myself gods gift to women but I do know my worth.

Moskvichka said:
Just think about it, a MALE, a DUDE, who prefers not to approach women. He lets them come to him. Do these men prefer a woman to pay for their dinner and drinks? do they want to be proposed to by a woman and be given a diamond ring? What's with the feminine men nowadays.:smt086 There's a good dancehall song by Cecile about men who dress like they stole the clothes from their little sister. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OeXiVtGwBa0
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Nope, I approach in a friendly day to day manner so long as it ties in to whatever i'm doing. I just said I don't chase and I never will. As far as everything else, those things dont apply to me what so ever. I always try to be a traditional gentleman.
 
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