Is your attraction exclusively toward ww/bm?

breanna03 said:
this! dated a couple white guys in high school, moved out on my own/went off to college, dated my first black man, signed up for this website, and the rest is history :)
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Yes! I’m 34 and have dated various races but have found myself increasingly in environments that result in black men being the majority of contacts. My last few relationships have been with black men.

I think a big factor in who we find attractive is who we surround ourselves with. As I’ve worked in a predominantly black environment, I’ve been invited to go to events that are predominantly black. Living in a diverse community means that when I go for a jog or just go to the store, I am likely to encounter black men.
 
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Rach said:
Yes! I’m 34 and have dated various races but have found myself increasingly in environments that result in black men being the majority of contacts. My last few relationships have been with black men.

I think a big factor in who we find attractive is who we surround ourselves with. As I’ve worked in a predominantly black environment, I’ve been invited to go to events that are predominantly black. Living in a diverse community means that when I go for a jog or just go to the store, I am likely to encounter black men.
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Welcome to the site Rach :) You have no idea how much I envy your position lol. Coming from Australia I'm surrounded by people I have no interest in being around lol.
 
Echo a lot of what has already been said but it has pretty much been exclusive to WW. I tried in high school to talk to/date a great young lady who wasn’t and, again, like others said just no spark. Similar to an earlier poster im shy by nature (yet do media stuff on camera behind a mic lol) so I’ve always appreciated the straightforwardness. Really though above all else is the vibe and level of care. As a black man sometimes you feel, I don’t want to say invisible, but that your plight, feelings, concerns, etc aren’t important and I’ve never felt that way in my previous relationships. Always safe and supported. Not to mention having a way to drag me out of my comfort zone and experience more to life. My two cents
 
jmoney42 said:
Echo a lot of what has already been said but it has pretty much been exclusive to WW. I tried in high school to talk to/date a great young lady who wasn’t and, again, like others said just no spark. Similar to an earlier poster im shy by nature (yet do media stuff on camera behind a mic lol) so I’ve always appreciated the straightforwardness. Really though above all else is the vibe and level of care. As a black man sometimes you feel, I don’t want to say invisible, but that your plight, feelings, concerns, etc aren’t important and I’ve never felt that way in my previous relationships. Always safe and supported. Not to mention having a way to drag me out of my comfort zone and experience more to life. My two cents
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thank you for sharing your perspective on this :) it sounds like you've gotten to where you want to be and I can feel the energy, thank you for sharing that with us too :)
 
breanna03 said:
thank you for sharing your perspective on this :) it sounds like you've gotten to where you want to be and I can feel the energy, thank you for sharing that with us too :)
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Aw shucks there you go making me blush again :p:D;). Glad to share! Figure I’m not the only one to have gone through these experiences and hopefully it can be used for something positive. Look like it already did :)
 
I wouldn't ever rule out dating another white guy. I've dated them in the past. But Im usually more attracted to black men and prefer dating them. I feel more comfortable with them. I haven't been with a white guy in over 3 years. They've been few and far between.
 
I wish I could properly express the struggle of being obsessed with chocolate and living somewhere that might as well have a restraining order against the good stuff.

Honestly, part of me wishes I’d never picked up the source magazine that introduced me to a whole new world of temptation—my life has not known peace since. :,(

Sometimes I think I should just cut the cord, detox, and free myself from this ongoing emotional hostage situation. But no, here I am, stuck in a predominantly white and Indian country :(

Life is hard when the chocolate you want is emotionally, geographically, and spiritually unavailable.
 
Black Americans get a large portion of the white cake. The leftovers are available for Black Africans. It's sad that Black Africans are perceived to be scammers and are only into interracial relationships for financial benefits, green cards, blue cards and travel opportunities.

Not all black Africans have that ideology. There are genuine ones. I think white women are calm, not loud and submissive; this is according to stories I have heard from black individuals who date white people.
I'm born and bred in Ghana, West Africa, never travelled out of my country or lived with white people. But the few times I have talked with white people in Africa, make me realize that white people (not the racists) are calm and not loud, they are friendly, good listeners and open-minded. I can't wait to find my other half in the white race.
 
beccaomecca said:
I wish I could properly express the struggle of being obsessed with chocolate and living somewhere that might as well have a restraining order against the good stuff.

Honestly, part of me wishes I’d never picked up the source magazine that introduced me to a whole new world of temptation—my life has not known peace since. :,(

Sometimes I think I should just cut the cord, detox, and free myself from this ongoing emotional hostage situation. But no, here I am, stuck in a predominantly white and Indian country :(

Life is hard when the chocolate you want is emotionally, geographically, and spiritually unavailable.
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Cheer up, nothing is unavailable this day and age :) You can connect with literally anyone in the world, it just may involve some traveling, long distance relationship and potentially moving, which is hard, but there is also charm in that :)
 
jen14 said:
Cheer up, nothing is unavailable this day and age :) You can connect with literally anyone in the world, it just may involve some traveling, long distance relationship and potentially moving, which is hard, but there is also charm in that :)
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My issue with some white women is that, they aren't ready to travel to Africa. They seek Black men in their neighborhoods.
 
jen14 said:
Cheer up, nothing is unavailable this day and age :) You can connect with literally anyone in the world, it just may involve some traveling, long distance relationship and potentially moving, which is hard, but there is also charm in that :)
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Haha, thanks hun. Up until about a year ago I still held onto hope. These days it feels very impossible, as a single person in Australia it's hard enough to even have any money to travel or to have money period. Online dating is the only option and not even that is what it used to be. Our government makes it near impossible for anyone other than Indians to move here. Lol and if you do snag a fine foreigner you need to pay I believe $15k to prove your relationship is legit and can take up to 2 years to be approved. All I can say is American women are the luckiest in the world. If I was attracted to Indians, Islanders or white people I'd be all gravy lol.
 
Iddrisu94 said:
Black Americans get a large portion of the white cake. The leftovers are available for Black Africans. It's sad that Black Africans are perceived to be scammers and are only into interracial relationships for financial benefits, green cards, blue cards and travel opportunities.

Not all black Africans have that ideology. There are genuine ones. I think white women are calm, not loud and submissive; this is according to stories I have heard from black individuals who date white people.
I'm born and bred in Ghana, West Africa, never travelled out of my country or lived with white people. But the few times I have talked with white people in Africa, make me realize that white people (not the racists) are calm and not loud, they are friendly, good listeners and open-minded. I can't wait to find my other half in the white race.
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I hear you, though everyone’s experiences are different, it’s cool that you’ve had positive interactions with white people. Cool and calm people come in all different races not exclusively white. I'm white. As white as they come, but I'm not calm lol.

At the end of the day, genuine connection isn’t really about race, it’s about finding someone whose vibe matches yours, though we pray that person is of our preferred race.

It’s great that you’re open-minded and looking forward to meeting your person. You will.

You never know, your other half might show up in the most unexpected way. Just stay yourself and keep that good energy — the right person will appreciate it.

I think afro beats artists really put you guys on the map and gave you a voice. I don't think categorising you all as scammers is a thing anymore. At least it shouldn't be. Honestly speaking, I think the main concern would be monogamy and truly trusting your hearts in the right place and not in her bank account. It is sad because yes real ones do exist but the question of whether it's genuine or for a green card etc would be the first question.

I think there's fault in all of us. You could say African Americans are over looked because they're the cassanova's of the world. It truly just comes down to individual preference and tolerance.

Do American men take your women as well? Sadly they don't take all of ours. Lol. Australian women are obsessed with African American men, but do also date Africans. Living on a beautifully mixed race continent would definitely come with its perks and I'm sure there's plenty of white women there who love to give an African man a chance.
 
beccaomecca said:
I hear you, though everyone’s experiences are different, it’s cool that you’ve had positive interactions with white people. Cool and calm people come in all different races not exclusively white. I'm white. As white as they come, but I'm not calm lol.

At the end of the day, genuine connection isn’t really about race, it’s about finding someone whose vibe matches yours, though we pray that person is of our preferred race.

It’s great that you’re open-minded and looking forward to meeting your person. You will.

You never know, your other half might show up in the most unexpected way. Just stay yourself and keep that good energy — the right person will appreciate it.

I think afro beats artists really put you guys on the map and gave you a voice. I don't think categorising you all as scammers is a thing anymore. At least it shouldn't be. Honestly speaking, I think the main concern would be monogamy and truly trusting your hearts in the right place and not in her bank account. It is sad because yes real ones do exist but the question of whether it's genuine or for a green card etc would be the first question.

I think there's fault in all of us. You could say African Americans are over looked because they're the cassanova's of the world. It truly just comes down to individual preference and tolerance.

Do American men take your women as well? Sadly they don't take all of ours. Lol. Australian women are obsessed with African American men, but do also date Africans. Living on a beautifully mixed race continent would definitely come with its perks and I'm sure there's plenty of white women there who love to give an African man a chance.
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Your words give me some hope, but that hope won't last a day. I'll get back to my old thought, that is, "Will I ever find my other half from another race?"
I guess the competition wouldn't be tough if I was born outside Africa. Just saying ‍♂️. I've heard so much about Australia and how Aussies are open-minded and tolerant. Australia is in my bucket list. I'd love to travel there in the future., and if possible, date an Aussie.
 
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beccaomecca said:
Haha, thanks hun. Up until about a year ago I still held onto hope. These days it feels very impossible, as a single person in Australia it's hard enough to even have any money to travel or to have money period. Online dating is the only option and not even that is what it used to be. Our government makes it near impossible for anyone other than Indians to move here. Lol and if you do snag a fine foreigner you need to pay I believe $15k to prove your relationship is legit and can take up to 2 years to be approved. All I can say is American women are the luckiest in the world. If I was attracted to Indians, Islanders or white people I'd be all gravy lol.
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Yes, I agree a long distance relationship would be challenging... financially and in other ways too... Maybe you should try to meet someone that is closer to you, maybe not from the other side of the world but maybe from another city in Australia?
 
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Yes, I agree a long distance relationship would be challenging... financially and in other ways too... Maybe you should try to meet someone that is closer to you, maybe not from the other side of the world but maybe from another city in Australia?
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I've tried hun. Ideally that would be perfect. Dating in this country is cooked, there's only a handful of black men in any city in this country. And even when you go to any city they're never visibly in sight. It's like trying to find a needle in a haystack and even when you do, it's not like in America where you're actually approached by the other sex. It's a whole different culture of intraversion here. Over there it's like an instant ego boost, men approach you and compliment you.
 
Iddrisu94 said:
Your words give me some hope, but that hope won't last a day. I'll get back to my old thought, that is, "Will I ever find my other half from another race?"
I guess the competition wouldn't be tough if I was born outside Africa. Just saying ‍♂️. I've heard so much about Australia and how Aussies are open-minded and tolerant. Australia is in my bucket list. I'd love to travel there in the future., and if possible, date an Aussie.
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Haha well, we're in the same predicament. You're not alone in those thoughts. I've always wanted to see Nigeria, legitimately considered going there next year then realised it's really a no go zone for solo travellers.

Australia is safe for anyone and everyone. I'd recommend coming out and checking it out at some stage.
 
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