How do I get a white woman?

[APPIAH]

Just like how you would get any woman, somehow i find it repulsive to think there is a special way to snag a white woman. You are in your late twenties so i am guessing you have dated women of other races and have been successful with at least one girl, so dude its not rocket science OK? Every woman, no point of correction, every lady wants to be approached with respect, genuineness and sincerity ,so be bold and take that step bruh.

 

[goodlove]

yeah i took that very harsh set of posts when i first signed up and started meeting people while doing stuff i like to do and presto it has worked for me. i also updated my wardrobe and you will be surprised (probably not) at how that works as well. I also go places i never went before be it more upscale bars or what not. Even went a couple times alone and alsways get invited to a table with very nice looking white women. So to the OP get out there homey. the more you are out there the more people you come across. it's like applying for a job the more you put out the more responses you get. if you sit at home and chill you won't come across anyone.

everything you stated is right on point. especially the highlighted part.
when you first start out trying to campaign for women ...you are going to get shot down ....alot. dont get upset, just use it as a learning experience. I just refined my intro and everything after that and soon It was getting better. you must remain self confident at all times and say what needs to be said that is acceptable to them. dont come off as being thristy and obnoxious.

example: you see a woman at a store.....dont walk up saying "yo baby whats your name "

do say " excuse me. My name is _______ and I saw you and I wanted to meet you. whats your name ?"

You dont have to say word for word but something along those lines. this works because you are complimenting without complimenting because they will read between the lines. It also works because you are being polite and courteous and confident. trust me if you approach them and they are mature they will be nice to you because they know its hard to put yourself out there. just be cool in your approach. you get more flies wityh honey.


meaning dont say " I saw you and I wanted to tell you that you are so pretty" dont do that because you seem thirsty.

If you get shot down then so be it. then ask open ended questions and steer the convo accordingly, get the digits and get out. the convo shouldnt last no more than 2 minutes.

 

[Tamstrong]

I know college is not like high school. I should've mentioned in my OP that I have already started college last year, and I didn't get any action then. You and a few other ppl on this board have said that I'm young, but I've seen ppl younger than me pulling girls since I was in high school.

Some folks just get a later start than others when it comes to dating/relationships. I guess it's hard to offer the most constructive advice when you don't know someone. It's also not the easiest thing to throw all your business out there with folks you don't know either.

Approaching someone isn't easy & there's a ton of pressure on men since they do the majority of the approaching.

My bad for the tacky sex doll joke...you haven't been here long enough yet for me to be giving you a hard time.

LOL

 

[karmacoma.]

I'm *still* trying to figure out how to get a white woman.

LMAO

 

[stiletoes]

It's not so much the rejection itself that bothers me. It's the ridicule and gossip that follows after. I don't want the reputation or image of being a hopeless romantic.

Dont listen, you are sweet

 

[stiletoes]

There just seems to be some unecessary meaness on the board lately. Now I'm not saying some people aren't getting what they asked for *cough cough* ............Jennyart, Mandingo..nico, list goes on.

There are some guys here who are pretty successful at getting/talkinig to women. Why not help the guy? Give him some ideas on where and how to meet women??

Jordan.. are right and have inspired a new thread idea for me.

 

[The Dark King]

6'2, 170 lbs. I've already posted my age "late 20's". And yes I am a student but I work as well. Will not post my income.

Sorry wasn't trying to pry just trying to get a better assessment of your situation.
The fact you're in school is great it gives you a population of women who are generally more open to meeting new people and having fun.

You're a good height and weight(women love tall men so you're ahead of the game)

I know some of the posters use lines like be yourself or just be friendly and smile. Does that make sense to you? Or even just going up and saying hi, then what?
Pay attention be observant like if there is a girl in your class that you find attractive try to see if she answers questions a lot or not at all then ask her to study the next time a test or quiz comes around. Be sure to work in the fact your grades are really important to you and you find that you do better on tests when you work with someone smart. Be sure to study before you study with her women love a smart man and you'll be sure to do well on your test.

Also be sure to find coed clubs to join or an intramural sport if you have time.
The best thing to remember is rejection is more likely to happen than success but so the fuck what. You're looking to meet a cool girl no get the guiness record for most successful coed interactions.
There's no shame in striking out just giving up on the game.
Stick to your strengths and most importantly DO NOT appear too available. Until she's earned a place in your life don't reveal too much.

Any more questions let me know. Oh and as far as wardrobe make sure you always match, that your clothes fit, and that you always smell good(I recommend aqua gio or clinique happy for men). These things have always worked for me when getting women

 

[stiletoes]

Sorry wasn't trying to pry just trying to get a better assessment of your situation.
The fact you're in school is great it gives you a population of women who are generally more open to meeting new people and having fun.

You're a good height and weight(women love tall men so you're ahead of the game)

I know some of the posters use lines like be yourself or just be friendly and smile. Does that make sense to you? Or even just going up and saying hi, then what?
Pay attention be observant like if there is a girl in your class that you find attractive try to see if she answers questions a lot or not at all then ask her to study the next time a test or quiz comes around. Be sure to work in the fact your grades are really important to you and you find that you do better on tests when you work with someone smart. Be sure to study before you study with her women love a smart man and you'll be sure to do well on your test.

Also be sure to find coed clubs to join or an intramural sport if you have time.
The best thing to remember is rejection is more likely to happen than success but so the fuck what. You're looking to meet a cool girl no get the guiness record for most successful coed interactions.
There's no shame in striking out just giving up on the game.
Stick to your strengths and most importantly DO NOT appear too available. Until she's earned a place in your life don't reveal too much.

Any more questions let me know. Oh and as far as wardrobe make sure you always match, that your clothes fit, and that you always smell good(I recommend aqua gio or clinique happy for men). These things have always worked for me when getting women

That was helpful and nice

 

[The Dark King]

That was helpful and nice

Contrary to popular belief I can be both

 

[velkrum]

It seems like no matter what I do (be aggressive, relax and don't think about it),that I don't get no girl.

How do I get a woman successfully without being rejected and clowned? I read something off another forum where people stated that regardless there will always be a portion of the population that doesn't have someone. Should I just become at peace with being single for life and make the most of it aside from that? What do yall think I should or could do?

At your age people pretty much know their position in life. I think you should be at peace with being single or start hooking up with fat and/or ugly women.

The alternative is to get into fitness, become big, fit, muscular and get a good education that will prepare you for a job earning 80k - 100k or more.

Follow that path and you will learn the life lessons you need to succeed socially as well as financially.

Most losers don't have the initiative, ambition and stamina to accomplish a high level of fitness and proper financial planning.

 

[QMark]

There's no need to post your income. Just be you & enjoy being young.

It is important to be careful about whose advice you take. Some of the ladies have offered good points, but Jaisee is right about it being helpful in this situation to get a good male perspective on it...he's also one of the men here who's worth listening to as well...some of the others, not so much.

It's actually mostly men who have given me advice over the years.

 

[stiletoes]

Contrary to popular belief I can be both

You must spread rep before giving it to dark knight again....

 

[jaisee]

Hey thanks for having my back. I generally don't use forums just because I know that kind of behavior is common. But I found this place yesterday and figured I'd give it a go. And I was prepared for silly comments like painero's and whoever posted the thing about the sex dolls, and I was just gonna ignore them and let them crack themselves up.

Ok, maybe no picture.... that's cool. Here are my tips on how to get dates, but never find 'the one'.

The truth is a lot of the annoying cliche things that you hear are true. For example, 'swag'. A lot of men hear women mention Lil Wayne or 50 Cents 'swag' and try to emulate that. Swag to me means first finding yourself, second being comfortable with who you are, and finally being confident in yourself. Very cliche, I know... but hear me out. You want to attract women who are appropriate for your lifestyle. So if you project an image that is not you two things will happen. 1) You'll be exposed as fake, 2) You'll find yourself in frustrating situations with women who really are not a good match for you. The key here is confidence, people will pick up on that. Keep your head high, cause you're the shit. Have the mentality that if a woman turns you down, it's her loss not yours.

TRY not to take anything personal. Not rejection, not ridicule, nothing. If you approach a woman and she is not interested, it's merely a reflection of her own personal tastes. The common mistake that we make when rejected is to feel that we're not good enough for the other person, and then we begin to feel bad about ourselves. That is your ego at work. Don't let that happen... some people have in their mind so specific a description of the partner that they desire that they're blind to good men with good intentions, this is to their own disadvantage. As soon as you let rejection start to make you feel down about yourself, you begin to lose confidence and that is very easy to pick up on.

Paniro kinda touched on this earlier, but cast a wide net. Unless you're Irba Derba, the way dating works these days it's generally going to be an application process for men and a filtering process for women. Don't wait for the right one to come to you... that will happen either way. If you see someone that you like, approach her with confidence. Keep trying and keep trying and keep trying.... just don't take the rejection personal. If it starts to get to you and get you down, take a step back until you get your confidence back and get right back to it.

How do you approach women? Are you as stiff as a board? Are you robotic and calculated? Women are kinda like human beings too. Be flirtatious, charming, witty and funny... crack jokes (be appropriate and don't over-do it). Here's another mistake greenhorns make... be able to talk and keep up in the conversation. If you've just met someone, the last thing that you want is for them to become bored with you. You know when you talk to someone new and sometimes there's that moment of silence and you begin thinking to yourself "oh shit, I better come up with something to say".... then you say some witty shit like "So, whats your favorite color?" thinking she'll believe that you're interested in her likes and dislikes? Don't do that. Pay attention to her, if you see that she is tapping her foot to a song playing in the background, comment on that "Ok, I like your taste in music... I'm going to guess you also like <whatever>". Don't ask too many questions... it seems like you're trying too hard. "What do you do for fun?" "What's your favorite food?" "What do you do for work?" drop all of those. Keep your hands out of your pockets and don't cross your arms.... use hand gestures, but don't over-do it unless she's deaf and you're doing ASL. Uhm.... when you're ready to ask her out, don't say "Would you like to go to dinner with me?"... instead say "Cirque du Soleil is in town this week, I'd love to have your company to the show.... maybe after the show we can go back to my house and I can fingerbang you a little bit."

Oh, and don't be too complimentary... it comes across as disingenuous and also desperate. She is just as lucky to date you as you are to date her.

Most important thing. Tell pretty women they're smart, tell smart women they're pretty. Don't say anything to pretty & smart women, they've already heard it all.

Oh yeah, I don't know how many female friends you have, but make more.

 

[QMark]

Just like how you would get any woman, somehow i find it repulsive to think there is a special way to snag a white woman. You are in your late twenties so i am guessing you have dated women of other races and have been successful with at least one girl, so dude its not rocket science OK? Every woman, no point of correction, every lady wants to be approached with respect, genuineness and sincerity ,so be bold and take that step bruh.

Well if you find it repulsive, whatever. I even said in my op that I am open to dating women of any race, and I haven't dated any women except for the one girl I mentioned.

 

[The Dark King]

Ok, maybe no picture.... that's cool. Here are my tips on how to get dates, but never find 'the one'.

The truth is a lot of the annoying cliche things that you hear are true. For example, 'swag'. A lot of men hear women mention Lil Wayne or 50 Cents 'swag' and try to emulate that. Swag to me means first finding yourself, second being comfortable with who you are, and finally being confident in yourself. Very cliche, I know... but hear me out. You want to attract women who are appropriate for your lifestyle. So if you project an image that is not you two things will happen. 1) You'll be exposed as fake, 2) You'll find yourself in frustrating situations with women who really are not a good match for you. The key here is confidence, people will pick up on that. Keep your head high, cause you're the shit. Have the mentality that if a woman turns you down, it's her loss not yours.

TRY not to take anything personal. Not rejection, not ridicule, nothing. If you approach a woman and she is not interested, it's merely a reflection of her own personal tastes. The common mistake that we make when rejected is to feel that we're not good enough for the other person, and then we begin to feel bad about ourselves. That is your ego at work. Don't let that happen... some people have in their mind so specific a description of the partner that they desire that they're blind to good men with good intentions, this is to their own disadvantage. As soon as you let rejection start to make you feel down about yourself, you begin to lose confidence and that is very easy to pick up on.

Paniro kinda touched on this earlier, but cast a wide net. Unless you're Irba Derba, the way dating works these days it's generally going to be an application process for men and a filtering process for women. Don't wait for the right one to come to you... that will happen either way. If you see someone that you like, approach her with confidence. Keep trying and keep trying and keep trying.... just don't take the rejection personal. If it starts to get to you and get you down, take a step back until you get your confidence back and get right back to it.

How do you approach women? Are you as stiff as a board? Are you robotic and calculated? Women are kinda like human beings too. Be flirtatious, charming, witty and funny... crack jokes (be appropriate and don't over-do it). Here's another mistake greenhorns make... be able to talk and keep up in the conversation. If you've just met someone, the last thing that you want is for them to become bored with you. You know when you talk to someone new and sometimes there's that moment of silence and you begin thinking to yourself "oh shit, I better come up with something to say".... then you say some witty shit like "So, whats your favorite color?" thinking she'll believe that you're interested in her likes and dislikes? Don't do that. Pay attention to her, if you see that she is tapping her foot to a song playing in the background, comment on that "Ok, I like your taste in music... I'm going to guess you also like <whatever>". Don't ask too many questions... it seems like you're trying too hard. "What do you do for fun?" "What's your favorite food?" "What do you do for work?" drop all of those. Keep your hands out of your pockets and don't cross your arms.... use hand gestures, but don't over-do it unless she's deaf and you're doing ASL. Uhm.... when you're ready to ask her out, don't say "Would you like to go to dinner with me?"... instead say "Cirque du Soleil is in town this week, I'd love to have your company to the show.... maybe after the show we can go back to my house and I can fingerbang you a little bit."

Oh, and don't be too complimentary... it comes across as disingenuous and also desperate. She is just as lucky to date you as you are to date her.

Most important thing. Tell pretty women they're smart, tell smart women they're pretty. Don't say anything to pretty & smart women, they've already heard it all.

Oh yeah, I don't know how many female friends you have, but make more.

I was with you until the last line. I've always felt that having female friends always hurt my game a little. I could be wrong.

 

[QMark]

Some folks just get a later start than others when it comes to dating/relationships. I guess it's hard to offer the most constructive advice when you don't know someone. It's also not the easiest thing to throw all your business out there with folks you don't know either.

Approaching someone isn't easy & there's a ton of pressure on men since they do the majority of the approaching.

My bad for the tacky sex doll joke...you haven't been here long enough yet for me to be giving you are hard time.



LOL

You're right. Those are some good points. Thanks for your response.

 

[Tamstrong]

Ok, maybe no picture.... that's cool. Here are my tips on how to get dates, but never find 'the one'.

The truth is a lot of the annoying cliche things that you hear are true. For example, 'swag'. A lot of men hear women mention Lil Wayne or 50 Cents 'swag' and try to emulate that. Swag to me means first finding yourself, second being comfortable with who you are, and finally being confident in yourself. Very cliche, I know... but hear me out. You want to attract women who are appropriate for your lifestyle. So if you project an image that is not you two things will happen. 1) You'll be exposed as fake, 2) You'll find yourself in frustrating situations with women who really are not a good match for you. The key here is confidence, people will pick up on that. Keep your head high, cause you're the shit. Have the mentality that if a woman turns you down, it's her loss not yours.

TRY not to take anything personal. Not rejection, not ridicule, nothing. If you approach a woman and she is not interested, it's merely a reflection of her own personal tastes. The common mistake that we make when rejected is to feel that we're not good enough for the other person, and then we begin to feel bad about ourselves. That is your ego at work. Don't let that happen... some people have in their mind so specific a description of the partner that they desire that they're blind to good men with good intentions, this is to their own disadvantage. As soon as you let rejection start to make you feel down about yourself, you begin to lose confidence and that is very easy to pick up on.

Paniro kinda touched on this earlier, but cast a wide net. Unless you're Irba Derba, the way dating works these days it's generally going to be an application process for men and a filtering process for women. Don't wait for the right one to come to you... that will happen either way. If you see someone that you like, approach her with confidence. Keep trying and keep trying and keep trying.... just don't take the rejection personal. If it starts to get to you and get you down, take a step back until you get your confidence back and get right back to it.

How do you approach women? Are you as stiff as a board? Are you robotic and calculated? Women are kinda like human beings too. Be flirtatious, charming, witty and funny... crack jokes (be appropriate and don't over-do it). Here's another mistake greenhorns make... be able to talk and keep up in the conversation. If you've just met someone, the last thing that you want is for them to become bored with you. You know when you talk to someone new and sometimes there's that moment of silence and you begin thinking to yourself "oh shit, I better come up with something to say".... then you say some witty shit like "So, whats your favorite color?" thinking she'll believe that you're interested in her likes and dislikes? Don't do that. Pay attention to her, if you see that she is tapping her foot to a song playing in the background, comment on that "Ok, I like your taste in music... I'm going to guess you also like <whatever>". Don't ask too many questions... it seems like you're trying too hard. "What do you do for fun?" "What's your favorite food?" "What do you do for work?" drop all of those. Keep your hands out of your pockets and don't cross your arms.... use hand gestures, but don't over-do it unless she's deaf and you're doing ASL. Uhm.... when you're ready to ask her out, don't say "Would you like to go to dinner with me?"... instead say "Cirque du Soleil is in town this week, I'd love to have your company to the show.... maybe after the show we can go back to my house and I can fingerbang you a little bit."

Oh, and don't be too complimentary... it comes across as disingenuous and also desperate. She is just as lucky to date you as you are to date her.

Most important thing. Tell pretty women they're smart, tell smart women they're pretty. Don't say anything to pretty & smart women, they've already heard it all.

Oh yeah, I don't know how many female friends you have, but make more.

Great post, Jaisee.

You're right. Those are some good points. Thanks for your response.

Thanks & you're welcome.

 

[Cloudkicker]

I think the thread name should be how to get a woman because every race have a slew of personalities. Don't take anything offensive and women close your eyes lol.

I'm single, in my late 20's and I've only had one girlfriend. It was several years ago and the relationship didn't even last two weeks. Since then I have had no luck with women. And before that I had no luck with women either.

If you had a girlfriend for only two weeks you my friend are doing something wrong and either know it or don't know it. Why did she leave and how did you meet her?

I am open to dating women of other ethnicities as well, but I am especially attracted to white women, so I'd prefer to just cut to the chase and just go after what I mainly want. I've tried talking to women in the past and it doesn't really turn out too well. I'm generally not shy, but I can be sometimes. In the past when I would get rejected, ppl at work or school would ridicule me and gossip about me. I don't even chase after women anymore because I don't wanna be talked about and I don't want to be "that guy"

Right here I see a FATAL mistake... Gymnast do not practice in front of the audience they do it behind close doors and what I mean is you haven't honed your skills yet your doing back-flips in front of an audience. Better to go dating in the wild..People who dont know you or your friends. Do not ask your classmate, co-workers or 'friends' out. once you made an outcast no girl will date you. Do not talk about your relationship status with anyone its just gossip fuel...real friends would have helped you and in college thats slim pickings.

Over the years, I've received a ton of advice from friends, co-workers, online articles, and even PUA's. And it's all so confusing now on what to do to be successful with women, especially white women since not all of them date black men or may be hesitant to.

Stop talking to all these people..your co-workers, friends. DONT TALK ABOUT DATING AT ALL.. keep your standards at average for now..not below average because I believe you will not learn much from the relationship.

online articles and PUA's help to extent..but I can read online ALL day how to fly an airplane..but unless you have some one physically show you..you'll crash and burn...at your college find some one that is similar to you (values, attitude..but is successful in dating) and emulate what he does.

I go back to college next month. A part of me is hoping that I'll meet someone there, because lots of guys tell me that it's supposedly mad easy to get chicks in college. But I didn't get girls in high school. Guys also told me when I was overseas that white women go nuts for African American guys, but they didn't go nuts for me. It seems like no matter what I do (be aggressive, relax and don't think about it),that I don't get no girl.

Dude I was reading this other thread about how women flock to black men (Blackman Paradise)..is somewhat bullshit. In Japan women are VERY VERY shy and while a lot men/women will notice you (particularly for your hair)you will be Gajin status. Japan is not racist..but not very outsider friendly as most the clubs or even stores require you to be escorted by a Japanese speaking friend. Roppongi maybe a little better. China is pretty much he same If they like blackmen they like what the Media has stereotyped us as most music and movies rarely expose normal blackmen. Reality is where ever you go you need to pursue as most will not pursue you...

 

[The Dark King]

Great post, Jaisee.



Thanks & you're welcome.

I'm seeing a pattern form

 

[lippy]

Ok, maybe no picture.... that's cool. Here are my tips on how to get dates, but never find 'the one'.

The truth is a lot of the annoying cliche things that you hear are true. For example, 'swag'. A lot of men hear women mention Lil Wayne or 50 Cents 'swag' and try to emulate that. Swag to me means first finding yourself, second being comfortable with who you are, and finally being confident in yourself. Very cliche, I know... but hear me out. You want to attract women who are appropriate for your lifestyle. So if you project an image that is not you two things will happen. 1) You'll be exposed as fake, 2) You'll find yourself in frustrating situations with women who really are not a good match for you. The key here is confidence, people will pick up on that. Keep your head high, cause you're the shit. Have the mentality that if a woman turns you down, it's her loss not yours.

TRY not to take anything personal. Not rejection, not ridicule, nothing. If you approach a woman and she is not interested, it's merely a reflection of her own personal tastes. The common mistake that we make when rejected is to feel that we're not good enough for the other person, and then we begin to feel bad about ourselves. That is your ego at work. Don't let that happen... some people have in their mind so specific a description of the partner that they desire that they're blind to good men with good intentions, this is to their own disadvantage. As soon as you let rejection start to make you feel down about yourself, you begin to lose confidence and that is very easy to pick up on.

Paniro kinda touched on this earlier, but cast a wide net. Unless you're Irba Derba, the way dating works these days it's generally going to be an application process for men and a filtering process for women. Don't wait for the right one to come to you... that will happen either way. If you see someone that you like, approach her with confidence. Keep trying and keep trying and keep trying.... just don't take the rejection personal. If it starts to get to you and get you down, take a step back until you get your confidence back and get right back to it.

How do you approach women? Are you as stiff as a board? Are you robotic and calculated? Women are kinda like human beings too. Be flirtatious, charming, witty and funny... crack jokes (be appropriate and don't over-do it). Here's another mistake greenhorns make... be able to talk and keep up in the conversation. If you've just met someone, the last thing that you want is for them to become bored with you. You know when you talk to someone new and sometimes there's that moment of silence and you begin thinking to yourself "oh shit, I better come up with something to say".... then you say some witty shit like "So, whats your favorite color?" thinking she'll believe that you're interested in her likes and dislikes? Don't do that. Pay attention to her, if you see that she is tapping her foot to a song playing in the background, comment on that "Ok, I like your taste in music... I'm going to guess you also like <whatever>". Don't ask too many questions... it seems like you're trying too hard. "What do you do for fun?" "What's your favorite food?" "What do you do for work?" drop all of those. Keep your hands out of your pockets and don't cross your arms.... use hand gestures, but don't over-do it unless she's deaf and you're doing ASL. Uhm.... when you're ready to ask her out, don't say "Would you like to go to dinner with me?"... instead say "Cirque du Soleil is in town this week, I'd love to have your company to the show.... maybe after the show we can go back to my house and I can fingerbang you a little bit."

Oh, and don't be too complimentary... it comes across as disingenuous and also desperate. She is just as lucky to date you as you are to date her.

Most important thing. Tell pretty women they're smart, tell smart women they're pretty. Don't say anything to pretty & smart women, they've already heard it all.

Oh yeah, I don't know how many female friends you have, but make more.

you are usually a man of few words...great post! i agree with jordan that we don't need to haze every new person on the forum to the point of them leaving the first day...i bet if we went back into the archives we will find that we all asked a repeat question at some point or struggled with how to word some questions...