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It's the same thing to me, if it's her he's in the relationship with, then her and the relationship are interchangeable, and viewing something you buy her as an investment in either is what I would object to. To me that's the equivalent of investing money to secure a better relationship or increase the chances it will last. I just don't think that's an appropriate way to look at it. If you do, and that works for you, that's fine. I would never want any man I was with to view it that way, that's all.

Like I said before that is the way you interpreted it. Nothing wrong or right about it(like my own view about it which is not the way you explained it excluding the investing money to keep the relationship going part).
 
I just started dating this girl and I want to get her a gift for xmas. Is an ipod too much for a person you've only been dating for a month or two?

Keep it simple. When someone gives me an excessive gift too early I start to wonder if they are desperate and using gifts to sweeten things up. Give something meaningful or heartfelt. You can't go wrong there with a woman.

Good luck in your new relationship btw.
 
I had to go to the DMV today to file some paperwork. I walked in and I was the only one there besides the workers. It scared me. I looked at them and said are you open?? Should I take a number still? :p

Just to make things fun while they processed my paperwork, they had a pow wow with all the clerks about their favorite Jackie Chan movies. Theeeeeeeeeeen they called my name even though they had my paperwork ready before the whole Jackie Chan convo. I felt better knowing I didn't leave there without being abused or waiting. I love the DMV. :heart:

Too bad the DMV isn't always that enjoyable Jordan! But at least you had fun, and it's always nice when something goes better than expected.
 
Too bad the DMV isn't always that enjoyable Jordan! But at least you had fun, and it's always nice when something goes better than expected.

Ahh yes it is.

They asked if I wanted a new ID and I said ummm sure. Since my last was after a bad cut why not replace. Even the picture guy was in a good mood. He said smile and I said oh wait hold on and I pulled my hair to the front of my shoulders and smoothed in down on my jacket. He said we are supposed to make you put long hair behind your back. So I leaned towards him and said I don't really want to. He looked around and said Ok. :p . So I guess he broke rank and let me have my hair way too. Score. Not that it will be a good pic anyhoo, this is the DMV......but I try.
 
I had to go to the DMV today to file some paperwork. I walked in and I was the only one there besides the workers. It scared me. I looked at them and said are you open?? Should I take a number still? :p

Just to make things fun while they processed my paperwork, they had a pow wow with all the clerks about their favorite Jackie Chan movies. Theeeeeeeeeeen they called my name even though they had my paperwork ready before the whole Jackie Chan convo. I felt better knowing I didn't leave there without being abused or waiting. I love the DMV. :heart:
Ok that's scary since when is the DMV empty? Eerie.
 
I'm good with putting time into a relationship, and that's what I value most as well. If he wants to do something for me, he can just give me his time, that's one thing I can't ever purchase.

I feel exactly the same way. :smt023
 
I just started dating this girl and I want to get her a gift for xmas. Is an ipod too much for a person you've only been dating for a month or two?

If it feels right, go for it. I gave my man extravagant gifts early on such as an expensive watch, an ipod, etc.. I did what felt right for me not for my neighbour.
 
If it feels right, go for it. I gave my man extravagant gifts early on such as an expensive watch, an ipod, etc.. I did what felt right for me not for my neighbour.

I'd buy her house if I could lol. I know it sounds weird but its amazing when you find someone who gets you and the chemistry is off the hook. I guess life has some positive surprises after all lol.
 
I'd buy her house if I could lol. I know it sounds weird but its amazing when you find someone who gets you and the chemistry is off the hook. I guess life has some positive surprises after all lol.

Good luck to you, Andrae!

I'll keep my thoughts on the other thing to myself. LOL. I'm not in the situation, so whatever I would say is irrelevant.
 
Remember that whole flu shot thing from a couple of weeks back? My coworkers had tried to bribe me into getting a flu shot and I was having none of it. I said, I get colds, the flu shot doesn't do anything for colds.

Anyway, at one point I told my coworker, I know i just jinxed myself.

What do you know, last night, I started to get a stomach ache and today, I took a 1/2 off of work and slept for 4 hours. I have a very slight fever and I haven't eaten anything all day. DAMMIT!! LOL. :smt009
 
I'd buy her house if I could lol. I know it sounds weird but its amazing when you find someone who gets you and the chemistry is off the hook. I guess life has some positive surprises after all lol.

I wouldnt say that its weird, I'd say most people in the beginning of a relationship have those feelings of "omg we click so well" or "we get each other" etc. Just take it slow and for what it is and it should be all good. I wish you the best my friend.
 
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I wouldnt say that its weird, I d say most people in the beginning of a relationship have those feelings of "omg we click so well" or "we get each other" etc. Just take it slow and for what it is and it should be all good. I wish you the best my friend.

That euphoric feeling is actually for real. I read a book written by a psychologist and she explained it. See this post I wrote about the book in the book thread. Basically it said that MRI of the brains of people in the early stages of love and insane people are similar. Andrae may go soft on us. :p Only in the love region of the brain Andrae.

http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showpost.php?p=212969&postcount=95
 
I wouldnt say that its weird, I d say most people in the beginning of a relationship have those feelings of "omg we click so well" or "we get each other" etc. Just take it slow and for what it is and it should be all good. I wish you the best my friend.

:( I almost never get that feeling, everyone is pretty much take it or leave it with me. Only once have I felt a connection, and been really drawn to someone right off the bat.
 
That euphoric feeling is actually for real. I read a book written by a psychologist and she explained it. See this post I wrote about the book in the book thread. Basically it said that MRI of the brains of people in the early stages of love and insane people are similar. Andrae may go soft on us. :p Only in the love region of the brain Andrae.

http://www.whitewomenblackmen.com/forum/showpost.php?p=212969&postcount=95

I read in a article awhile back about this same thing.

:( I almost never get that feeling, everyone is pretty much take it or leave it with me. Only once have I felt a connection, and been really drawn to someone right off the bat.
Most people I know experience the "we know and understand each other" feeling in the beginning of a relationship. Then after awhile of really getting to know the person the feeling subsides (not necessarily in a bad way more or so in a Im coming down from my happy/love buzz and becoming love sober so to speak and looking at the relationship from more of a realistic approach vs the idealistic approach that you started it off with). I usually experience the Omg this is the one feeling, but I'm trying to train myself to just take it for what it is.
 
Most people I know experience the "we know and understand each other" feeling in the beginning of a relationship. Then after awhile of really getting to know the person the feeling subsides (not necessarily in a bad way more or so in a Im coming down from my happy/love buzz and becoming love sober so to speak). I usually experience the Omg this is the one feeling, but I'm trying to train myself to just take it for what it is.

I tend to get that feeling after I've known someone for some time, I guess with me it grows the more familiar I become with someone. I think I'm an acquired taste. But then some people just never get me, and that's real apparent, and pretty common with me. I get the confused, deer in the headlight look from people quite often, at this point I'm kinda shocked anytime someone does appear to understand me. :smt042
 
I read in a article awhile back about this same thing.


Most people I know experience the "we know and understand each other" feeling in the beginning of a relationship. Then after awhile of really getting to know the person the feeling subsides (not necessarily in a bad way more or so in a Im coming down from my happy/love buzz and becoming love sober so to speak and looking at the relationship from more of a realistic approach vs the idealistic approach that you started it off with). I usually experience the Omg this is the one feeling, but I'm trying to train myself to just take it for what it is.

Yeah I'm hoping to come down soon. This shit is a little annoying. I'm beginning to notice love songs more frequently. Its uber gay lol. But you're right about the insanity thing. I wonder why that is.
 
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