'Why I Prefer Black Men': A White Woman's Story

[Sabinne]

What's wrong with a woman preferring a black men sexually? Why does she have to have reasons that you like? No one said you had to date her, these are just her feelings about why she likes black men--she finds them more appealing sexually. What's wrong with that? What's his name likes women who shoot their own dinner, someone else likes blondes with big tits, she likes black men...why is this bad?

Excuse me miss there is absolutely nothing in the world wrong with being sexually attracted to bm. I am attracted to ww but not for the sole purposes. Anyone who is attracted to a certain group of people for sexual reasons is just a confused, insignificant, sexually-frustrated individual.
The title of the thread already made me lose interest as i could figure out it was old fool who has been inflicted with the Ugly Duckling Syndrome. I use the word "fool" because she clearly is one.
However, the beginning of her text was a little bit worthwhile until she started going on about some major garbage, the garbage i hate to hear from some ignorant white women. I make use of the word "ignorant" because the comments uttered by this woman would not even be thought of by an educated, intellectual woman. Besides, most white women arent ignorant anyway.
They arent novelties though. I would be foolish to say that. Those lines are pathetic though if you ask me. "Oh, I like black men they have huge rod", " I love the way y'all move your hips", "i love them thick lips, makes me wanna kiss them"... Im tired of those silly stereotypes.. Ok, I may have a big stuff, I may dance the Hooba hooba very well, I may have some pussy-eater lips, but I have a MOTHERFUCKIN BRAIN TOO!!( excuse the profanity, its not usual and/or expected of me). I just dont get it when some idiots seem to appreciate us just physically? We have a personnality too, some brain, some knowledge...

You'll have to find someone more sympathetic if you want to cry about being a sex object. I've been treated that way my entire life and you don't see me crying my sad tale to you. I'm sorry if your delicate sensibilities have been ruffled, but you'll just have to find a way past this like the rest of the girls do.

 

[SardonicGenie]

Oh, I see now. Since you've been treated that way your whole life, you're entitled to feel that way about black men and cry yourself. :roll: But, let me guess, you are worth the time, right?

 

[Sabinne]

*Liking redhair is not a fetish--a fetish is liking to lick people's feet, having your nipples put into clamps, or wearing a giant diaper.

We aren't talking about hair here. We are talking about the color of someone's skin only being perceived by this woman as sexually attractive, which is like having a fetish (Kid Rasta says in his own way), and I would doubt it if you would want a black man who would only see you to as nothing more than a fetish.

Honey, I'm long past how men see me anymore. You're talking to a woman who is a size six with DDD breasts. Men have been staring at me my whole life. Who knows how they see me? Who cares? I've heard men talk about women like they were nothing, folks do it here all the time. It's not different because it's your skin color she likes and not your hair color.

 

[Sabinne]

Oh, I see now. Since you've been treated that way your whole life, you're entitled to feel that way about black men and cry yourself. :roll: But, let me guess, you are worth the time, right?

I'm not crying sweety--I'm wondering why the hell you are.

 

[SardonicGenie]

*Liking redhair is not a fetish--a fetish is liking to lick people's feet, having your nipples put into clamps, or wearing a giant diaper.

We aren't talking about hair here. We are talking about the color of someone's skin only being perceived by this woman as sexually attractive, which is like having a fetish (Kid Rasta says in his own way), and I would doubt it if you would want a black man who would only see you to as nothing more than a fetish.

Honey, I'm long past how men see me anymore. You're talking to a woman who is a size six with DDD breasts. Men have been staring at me my whole life. Who knows how they see me? Who cares? I've heard men talk about women like they were nothing, folks do it here all the time. It's not different because it's your skin color she likes and not your hair color.

I didn't ask to know how big your breasts are, and so what if men have been staring at you your whole life? You're not the only one...

and, yeah, it is different, since that's what the article is all about. Did you catch that yet?

 

[SardonicGenie]

Oh, I see now. Since you've been treated that way your whole life, you're entitled to feel that way about black men and cry yourself. :roll: But, let me guess, you are worth the time, right?

I'm not crying sweety--I'm wondering why the hell you are.

Maybe it's because you were about what others think about the article, and then you gave me a sad story about the way you were treated all of your life.

 

[Sabinne]

*Liking redhair is not a fetish--a fetish is liking to lick people's feet, having your nipples put into clamps, or wearing a giant diaper.

We aren't talking about hair here. We are talking about the color of someone's skin only being perceived by this woman as sexually attractive, which is like having a fetish (Kid Rasta says in his own way), and I would doubt it if you would want a black man who would only see you to as nothing more than a fetish.

Honey, I'm long past how men see me anymore. You're talking to a woman who is a size six with DDD breasts. Men have been staring at me my whole life. Who knows how they see me? Who cares? I've heard men talk about women like they were nothing, folks do it here all the time. It's not different because it's your skin color she likes and not your hair color.

I didn't ask to know how big your breasts are, and so what if men have been staring at you your whole life? You're not the only one...

and, yeah, it is different, since that's what the article is all about. Did you catch that yet?

I mentioned my breast size because that's why I was treated as a sex object and you're offended that because of your skin color you were treated like a sex object. Well, suck it up, Sally.

It's not different. It could have been "Why I Prefer Big Titty Women To Little Titty Women". You're saying someone preferring a skin color is bad or something. I've seen dozens of black men preferring white women here--and don't lie and say it's not true--and that's fine. The thing you don't like is WHY she likes black men and for her, it's sexual. Well, lots of men here like white women for sexual reasons--don't lie and say they don't! Only for some reason you think you're a good person and she's horrible. Whatever.

 

[LaydeezmanCris]

What's wrong with a woman preferring a black men sexually? Why does she have to have reasons that you like? No one said you had to date her, these are just her feelings about why she likes black men--she finds them more appealing sexually. What's wrong with that? What's his name likes women who shoot their own dinner, someone else likes blondes with big tits, she likes black men...why is this bad?

Excuse me miss there is absolutely nothing in the world wrong with being sexually attracted to bm. I am attracted to ww but not for the sole purposes. Anyone who is attracted to a certain group of people for sexual reasons is just a confused, insignificant, sexually-frustrated individual.
The title of the thread already made me lose interest as i could figure out it was old fool who has been inflicted with the Ugly Duckling Syndrome. I use the word "fool" because she clearly is one.
However, the beginning of her text was a little bit worthwhile until she started going on about some major garbage, the garbage i hate to hear from some ignorant white women. I make use of the word "ignorant" because the comments uttered by this woman would not even be thought of by an educated, intellectual woman. Besides, most white women arent ignorant anyway.
They arent novelties though. I would be foolish to say that. Those lines are pathetic though if you ask me. "Oh, I like black men they have huge rod", " I love the way y'all move your hips", "i love them thick lips, makes me wanna kiss them"... Im tired of those silly stereotypes.. Ok, I may have a big stuff, I may dance the Hooba hooba very well, I may have some pussy-eater lips, but I have a MOTHERFUCKIN BRAIN TOO!!( excuse the profanity, its not usual and/or expected of me). I just dont get it when some idiots seem to appreciate us just physically? We have a personnality too, some brain, some knowledge...

You'll have to find someone more sympathetic if you want to cry about being a sex object. I've been treated that way my entire life and you don't see me crying my sad tale to you. I'm sorry if your delicate sensibilities have been ruffled, but you'll just have to find a way past this like the rest of the girls do.

erm excuse me, i never at any point cried over being a sexual object and neither do i need any sympathy from you or anyone else. I personally think its the way you portray yourself that gives people an idea of what you really are. Im gonna end that issue there.
My sensibilities have not necessarily been ruffled but i did date a ww who was dating me for the "wrong reason" so i wasted no time in getting rid of her. Its just a shame that some people are so superificial. :roll:

 

[tuckerreed]

man, sabine is hostile to all bm who do not agree with her social agenda and yet she doesnt want to be judged, but she judges everyone else so easily.

guys i am glad you are seeing her true nature and her trollish behavior

 

[SardonicGenie]

*Liking redhair is not a fetish--a fetish is liking to lick people's feet, having your nipples put into clamps, or wearing a giant diaper.

We aren't talking about hair here. We are talking about the color of someone's skin only being perceived by this woman as sexually attractive, which is like having a fetish (Kid Rasta says in his own way), and I would doubt it if you would want a black man who would only see you to as nothing more than a fetish.

Honey, I'm long past how men see me anymore. You're talking to a woman who is a size six with DDD breasts. Men have been staring at me my whole life. Who knows how they see me? Who cares? I've heard men talk about women like they were nothing, folks do it here all the time. It's not different because it's your skin color she likes and not your hair color.

I didn't ask to know how big your breasts are, and so what if men have been staring at you your whole life? You're not the only one...

and, yeah, it is different, since that's what the article is all about. Did you catch that yet?

I mentioned my breast size because that's why I was treated as a sex object and you're offended that because of your skin color you were treated like a sex object. Well, suck it up, Sally.

And, you are offended because of how we feel about the article, since you've been treated like a sex object all of your life. Take your own advice and suck it up, Chesty La'roo.

It's not different. It could have been "Why I Prefer Big Titty Women To Little Titty Women".

Do you know the difference between being attracted to someone's body part, or simply the color of their skin? Seems like you don't...

You're saying someone preferring a skin color is bad or something.

No, I'm saying that preferring someone ONLY because of their skin color is 'bad or something' (what does that comment of yours imply?) but I guess any black man will do just fine with you. I feel sorry for him, knowing that he might catch something...

I've seen dozens of black men preferring white women here--and don't lie and say it's not true--and that's fine. The thing you don't like is WHY she likes black men and for her, it's sexual. Well, lots of men here like white women for sexual reasons--don't lie and say they don't! Only for some reason you think you're a good person and she's horrible. Whatever.

I guess this makes you a good soul, in your book, to defend a sexually repressed racist, but, whatever. And, where you do see these dozens of men in here? Guess what? There are tons of white women who are no better than you and this Susan either, so what do you say to that?

 

[Sabinne]

erm excuse me, i never at any point cried over being a sexual object and neither do i need any sympathy from you or anyone else. I personally think its the way you portray yourself that gives people an idea of what you really are. Im gonna end that issue there.
My sensibilities have not necessarily been ruffled but i did date a ww who was dating me for the "wrong reason" so i wasted no time in getting rid of her. Its just a shame that some people are so superificial. :roll:

Getting rid of someone for liking you for the wrong reasons is smart. Someone who is with you for your skin color doesn't make much of a relationship, but someone who is initially attracted to you because of your skin color, your smile or whatever...I don't see what's bad about that. I do it all the time, only it's a man's body that catches my eye first. It doesn't mean that I'll be with them for their body, but it's what gives me pause and makes me think twice about them.

I'm sorry if I've portrayed myself in someway that's not to your liking or if you think I'm judging you. I'm trying my best to see what's different about a woman being attracted to a black man because of his skin and a man being attracted to a woman because her breasts. She likes the way his skin feels and the man likes the way her breasts feel. What's the difference?

 

[PearlGirl]

ok, ok kids.... I think that we might be getting off topic here.....


Back to this article....

I can understand that overall, it might not please everyone... but I have to be completely honest and say that there are some things that she says that I agree with. Now, of course, most of what she says are sweeping generalizations and I might likely react in a similar way (as some of the men here) if a guy wrote an article like this in regards to women... HOWEVER... I am attracted to black men, so some of the things that she says do ring true for me:

I want black men. They want me. We look at one another and exchange a visible frisson of sexual energy in the lingering glances.

This is her experience.... but it is mine as well. I have not felt the intensity that she speaks of with men of any other race. Is it wrong to admit that?

Black men have more energy, style and edge than white men. They know how to flirt, a nearly lost art among the rest of us. A black man is so damned sexy because he knows how to make a woman feel sexy.

Black men have something white guys don't have anymore: confidence in their masculinity, their sexuality. They clearly know they're men. White men appear to be waiting for the latest sociological research study to let them know if they are men or not. Yet black men are gentlemen, something else white men no longer are. They make me feel like a woman, both respected and desired. I can let go of my inhibitions, my need to control, when I am with them. How many white men can treat a woman like a lady and ravish her too?

I tend to agree with most of this too.... HOWEVER, I would have worded it with more "the black men that I have known" or more "In my experience"-type of statements. Would that have made it more acceptable? And I would have left out the comparison to white men... There is no need to put down one group to elevate another!

I am sure there must be some black men who aren't good in bed. Personally, I have not experienced one who isn't. (True, I am not dating down the socioeconomic ladder, but I didn't do that when I dated white either, so the racial comparisons seem valid and fair.)

hahaha... I have experienced at least one BM who was bad, bad, bad in bed! However... what the heck does "dating down the socioeconomic ladder" have to do with being good in bed?? (I for one, am SURE that Donald Trump must suck in bed! :lol: :lol: )

Analyze the roots of attractions all you want—like scientists have done—and you won't come up with a perfect explanation for why we crave what we do. Desire rises from our depths and is gloriously oblivious to the good opinion of others. Yet until recently, I pretended that my lust was an equal-opportunity craving, because that seemed like the right thing to do.

This rings completely true to me. I have had a hard time coming to terms with my "preference" because of the negative stereotypes associated to women who mainly date black men... to the point where I also have gone on a few dates with a "token white boy"... to prove (to myself? to my friends? to my mother?) that I'm not just a "black-cock-hoe"...

That was my last token white guy. I recently came out of my racial-preference closet and told my friends, "I love black men."
(...)
Nobody was surprised. ...

Well, that's that. I can't fake it or hide it. It has nothing to do with not liking any other men... but generally speaking, it's BM that I like - AND definitely not JUST for the sex... I hope to one day find a nice, kind loving BM who will want me for life and will give lots of beautiful little mixed babies!

Overall, I can understand why this article may be offensive to some... but I have to admit, that I kinda see her point...

 

[PearlGirl]

Getting rid of someone for liking you for the wrong reasons is smart. Someone who is with you for your skin color doesn't make much of a relationship, but someone who is initially attracted to you because of your skin color, your smile or whatever...I don't see what's bad about that. I do it all the time, only it's a man's body that catches my eye first. It doesn't mean that I'll be with them for their body, but it's what gives me pause and makes me think twice about them.

I think that this was not being understood earlier in this topic....

I could not agree with you more though.

 

[SardonicGenie]

I see where you are coming from, Pearl, but an overall attraction based on a genuine interest other than 'skin' isn't what the article was pertaining to, like in may be in your case.

 

[7Seven]

It sounds like all the WW here are hypocrites. Most definitely abnormal deep psychological chemical imbalances. But I am glad you two faced hypocrites showed and deposed yourselves. It seems all of you do have even have the gall to impose your idiosyncrasies upon white men, because more or less they will not stand for it. You find it much easier to mentally control black men whom will most likely have an "colour complex." It is just another twist of racism spit out from the Ether. What pisses me off some of these black men who "exclusively" date WW can not even see it - can not see past the light of day and accept that fact that they are only for the enjoyment and entertainment for WW. That is pathetic! It is pathetic because women like Sabinne and the like are less then desirable, and do not offer much. Nothing much more then a nut on the face. Definitely NOT the hot chick - more or less like the average looking business executive chick whom could be most likely a piggy, that has an token self-righteous attitude.

But oh! What if you meet a black male whom does not satisfy your idea of what is to be sexual? What if you meet many black males whom does not satisfy your racist dogma!? Then what!? You spit him back into the Ether and go about back to Fortress Caucasia. But please keep exposing your drivel, maybe it may be a wake up call for black men whom are incumbent with stupidity.

 

[lainarain]

Wow. I go to work and look what I've missed. I woulda loved being part of this. So, my thoughts:

The first part of the article clearly explained that most ww that date bm are because of 7's Ugly Duckling Syndrome. Yes, I agree that there are a few ww who do date bm for this reason. And then the author states that she is too fine to be because of that. So, every other ww dates bm cause they ugly...except for her.

She then goes on and on about why she finds bm attractive: the feel of their skin, their sex appeal, their sexual confidence. For the most part, I agree with her in that.

However, I also agree that she is objectifying some of these men for her sexual satisfaction. And I am quite concerned that she has such a large research pool of bm that she has had sex with.

If someone had posted this article on some other interracial dating sites everyone probably would have cheered. On this site, we have had many discussions on the black bull and the racism behind desiring someone on the basis of their skin color. I can understand why a bm may be offended by the article.

P.S. Sardonic - I also do hope that my attraction is simply because I prefer bm, and nothing else motivated by racism.

 

[LaydeezmanCris]

erm excuse me, i never at any point cried over being a sexual object and neither do i need any sympathy from you or anyone else. I personally think its the way you portray yourself that gives people an idea of what you really are. Im gonna end that issue there.
My sensibilities have not necessarily been ruffled but i did date a ww who was dating me for the "wrong reason" so i wasted no time in getting rid of her. Its just a shame that some people are so superificial. :roll:

Getting rid of someone for liking you for the wrong reasons is smart. Someone who is with you for your skin color doesn't make much of a relationship, but someone who is initially attracted to you because of your skin color, your smile or whatever...I don't see what's bad about that. I do it all the time, only it's a man's body that catches my eye first. It doesn't mean that I'll be with them for their body, but it's what gives me pause and makes me think twice about them.

I'm sorry if I've portrayed myself in someway that's not to your liking or if you think I'm judging you. I'm trying my best to see what's different about a woman being attracted to a black man because of his skin and a man being attracted to a woman because her breasts. She likes the way his skin feels and the man likes the way her breasts feel. What's the difference?

I have no problems with you or anyone else on this board. I just need to make it clear that we are humans, and not sexual objects. You are quite right, being attracted initially to a person's physical features isnt wrong but then other assessments have to come in after that. BTW, yes, i do love how a woman's breasts feel on me. :lol: :lol:

 

[infiniti]

Although I haven't read this article in its entirety I have to say it has become increasingly annoying when I see women (including black women) totally treat us like some object to be desired. That being said, sexual attraction for someone often is a foundation for further understanding of a potential partner's character. So as black males how do we go about filtering out the shallow individuals who see us as nothing more an object to be devoured?

By the way I will like to congratulate iffy's wiffey on the arrival of little Imade (I tried to do so earlier but my computer has decided to restrict my connection to the outer world so you hopefully will get this one). Although I haven't seen the picture everyone is raving about, I am sure she is quite beautiful. So what does Imade mean? I tried figuring it out but I think the name is Ibo, not Yoruba in origin. Once again, congratulations and ...oluwa a wo omo si o ( a little Nigerian prayer).

 

[MistressB]

If she doesn't go for black men because white men are rejecting her, why does she make such a big deal of white men rejecting her?

 

[Iffy'swifey]

By the way I will like to congratulate iffy's wiffey on the arrival of little Imade (I tried to do so earlier but my computer has decided to restrict my connection to the outer world so you hopefully will get this one). Although I haven't seen the picture everyone is raving about, I am sure she is quite beautiful. So what does Imade mean? I tried figuring it out but I think the name is Ibo, not Yoruba in origin. Once again, congratulations and ...oluwa a wo omo si o ( a little Nigerian prayer).

Don't want to hijack this thread, but thanks a lot. The name is Bini (Iffy's mother's name) but Iffy's Dad is Ika, hence the Ibo thought maybe. Imade means I have not fallen, she really is a little beauty, I know I'm biased but it's true. People even come up to me in the street and compliment her looks.

With regard to this thread though, it's a pity that things can't be discussed with name calling and general nastiness. Not that I'm the patron saint of all things lovely and fabulous, but it's a shame when things spiral downhill.