'Why I Prefer Black Men': A White Woman's Story

[PearlGirl]

I have friends who when we go out always feel the need to point out all the black men in the room to me!! Well, duh... of course I don't find all bm attractive BECAUSE they are black!!

:lol: :lol:

NEVER tell your friends what you like

Oh... but somtimes they do point out good ones!!! :lol: :lol:

Damned if you do, damned if you don't....

 

[luxusvilla123]

thank you bryant for your compliment.maybe you would wondering how much people there are, which have the same opinion like me.

i don´t want to say that somebody uses somebody else. therfore have to be always two people. one who uses, one who likes to get used.

never in your life, you can be sure, that people are honest.
but i think, it is also a question, how much people travel round in the world.if you have contact to different nationalities,in their own countries, you have to lern to be tolerant.

in that case i am so happy that i had to travel to africa.
greetings

 

[7Seven]

Oh! You are a perceptive one!!! I am an well experienced and respected chess player, but I am no grandmaster. But it is true, the most powerful Human is the white women - they just do not know it or lack the necessary intelligence to materialise it into something meaningful and with regard other than their own self gain and pleasure. Hence their struggle for independence.

Men of every denomination, cultural background, hue and Establishment; have fought, brought nations to war, created Morals and Religion, civilization and the like all to empress an European White Women. The sheer power, still, till this day, White women share that same power. It has only materialised into racist overtones and sexual innuendos - none the less the air of power still exists.

In comes the black male who by definition is already considered less than human; because 1) he is a man, and only use in this pathetic world - is to provide material wealth; even White women want to take that from us or any sense of masculinity men want to claim and 2) the colour of his skin, the politics revolving around the colour of his skin, the negative connotations revolving around the colour of his skin. Therefore hold no position of real power. The only power he can keep is his Soul - white women may be able to move most black men, but not this black male.

I think it's sad that you feel that way. As a chess player, you should realize the power that you hold is just as great as any other player. A woman's power exists because others give it to her, no matter what her race. Men hold a great deal of power over women and I doubt anyone could ever deny that. More wars have been fought and more blood has been spilled so that a man could gain power. Rarely has it ever had anything to do with a white woman.

That power is not equal. You can easily make the correlation with the Queen and the Pawns. Obviously, the Pawn have latent strength of about 1, pails in comparison to the Queen which latent strength is about 8. Power is simple to understand, once you understand the players. In fact, white women's power is so much greater then black men's it is almost laughable. It is never a question of "how come you let this white women move you." More or less, the question is: "how come this white women has so much power to move you." Most black men do not even recongise that they never pick the white women, she picks him out of some larger then life expectation that he may never be able to for fill. But, what happens if he can not for fill this obsessive expectation!?!? A question that I have yet to have to answer.

I can't respect a woman who is with a man solely for the color of his skin, but the man who does not realize this is just as much at fault. Would you not realize that you were not being valued as an equal in a relationship? Would you not see the lack of respect you were being given? If a person is not bright enough to realize his own situation, then perhaps he deserves whatever consequence it brings.

But wait a minute, the basis of white women's attraction to black men derives out of the colour of his skin and what it is "suppose' to entail. Just listen to the testimonials of white women. Yet, there will be NOT ONE white women who can answer the above question

But, what happens if he can not for fill this obsessive expectation!?!?

 

[Sabinne]

That power is not equal. You can easily make the correlation with the Queen and the Pawns. Obviously, the Pawn have latent strength of about 1, pails in comparison to the Queen which latent strength is about 8. Power is simple to understand, once you understand the players. In fact, white women's power is so much greater then black men's it is almost laughable. It is never a question of "how come you let this white women move you." More or less, the question is: "how come this white women has so much power to move you." Most black men do not even recognize that they never pick the white women, she picks him out of some larger then life expectation that he may never be able to for fill. But, what happens if he can not for fill this obsessive expectation!?!? A question that I have yet to have to answer.

I can't respect a woman who is with a man solely for the color of his skin, but the man who does not realize this is just as much at fault. Would you not realize that you were not being valued as an equal in a relationship? Would you not see the lack of respect you were being given? If a person is not bright enough to realize his own situation, then perhaps he deserves whatever consequence it brings.

But wait a minute, the basis of white women's attraction to black men derives out of the colour of his skin and what it is "suppose' to entail. Just listen to the testimonials of white women. Yet, there will be NOT ONE white women who can answer the above question

But, what happens if he can not for fill this obsessive expectation!?!?

In my opinion, you're only a pawn if you think of yourself that way. If you are with a woman who wants you only for the color of your skin, isn't that a choice that you make? She can't force you.

As for not being able to live up to expectations, that's true for any relationship. Do you honestly think women spend hours on their hair and make-up, get plastic surgery and starve themselves so that they won't live up to a man's expectations? The problem isn't how others view them, it's how they view themselves. Once I realized the only expectations I had to live up to were my own, I became a great deal happier with my own life and in my own skin. Perhaps that could work for you.

 

['Sup.]

Re: new love

hello
i am from Germany

wow me too
Where are you ?
I am in bayern/bavaria

 

[Moskvichka]

I've read the article but don't have the time to read the thread. Anyway,
in the same article she has managed to insult everybody - black men, black women, white men and white women.

"The woman who goes after black men is a variant of sex journalist."

What the fuck did you just call me?

"Black men have something white guys don't have anymore: confidence in their masculinity, their sexuality. They clearly know they're men. White men appear to be waiting for the latest sociological research study to let them know if they are men or not. Yet black men are gentlemen, something else white men no longer are. They make me feel like a woman, both respected and desired. I can let go of my inhibitions, my need to control, when I am with them. How many white men can treat a woman like a lady and ravish her too?"

WTF? Where is all the contempt for the white men coming from? Are you a victim of divorce or something? Makes me wanna go out and fuck a white man like an animal, preferably one of these guys:

http://www.icubed.com/~rpoe/russian.htm

I'm not even going to say anything else cuz I don't feel like going back to that site and looking at it again, I'm just kinda stunned at what kind of people are out there. I used to reach out to "women like me" in interracial relationships, being open with them treating them like we have something in common. I think I'll be more careful now. :twisted:

 

[luxusvilla123]

sup,
i am very closed to you, near of munich
greetings

 

['Sup.]

I am in München
Where are you??

 

[SardonicGenie]

Several posters have made nothing but very good points throughout the thread that I agree wholeheartedly with, and in the case of this site being exclusive to an attraction of a specific color of skin, there are variations of people in here, who are attracted to black men or white women for their own individual reasons.

The article written by this Susan, only demonstrated the underlying ugliness of white privilege, embedded in along with the Ugly Duckling Syndrome, and lil' miss priss, Sabinne, has done nothing but justify the contents of the article, and neglected all of the valid points made by 7Seven, LaydeezmanCris, tuckerreed, Bryant, PearlGirl, Iffy's Wifey, lainarain, over, and myself, over and over again, only to throw in some childish slandering and projecting over and over again, as if she knows all about black male/ white female relations as a whole, and then tried to rub her credentials in Seven's face (when he probably surpasses her academically, as he seems to) just so she can seem right about being attracted to a person's skin color, when all along, she was just agreeing and disagreeing over and over again, like a kindergartner trying to out-wit their own teacher, and on top of all that, claims that the woman who wrote the article, really, truly is, everything we think of her, and so are the black men who lay down with her (NO ONE in here has let them off the hook either), but then thinks that just because she has a special lil' degree, and a black cousin or two, and has been 'used so much, that she knows absolutely EVERYTHING about interracial relations between ALL black men and white women, when her responses in this thread as opposed to several of ours, ONLY prove once and for all that she can never learn enough about herself and her relations with any man.

Lil' Miss Sabine is an Ugly Duckling troll, trapped inside of her white privilege, and can't seem to think outside of the box of regulations for Fortress Caucasia. This has been proven repeatedly throughout the thread in her asinine, 'monkey-see, monkey-do' responses. Like I said, whoever the black guy is, I fee sorry for him, if he were to catch something. :roll: :roll: :roll:

 

[tuckerreed]

you have to remember sardonic, that sabine is a white woman living in the southern state of Tennessee. they are not very forward thinking and many are still quite rabidly racist. i am sure there are people who date interracially down there but still use the N word to describe black people. I too am from the south and go home often and the so called liberal white southerner is still a bigot compared to someone from a more progressive and educated part of the world. dont be fooled, many of these people are either experimenting with black men, or doing it as a joke.

 

[SardonicGenie]

you have to remember sardonic, that sabine is a white woman living in the southern state of Tennessee. they are not very forward thinking and many are still quite rabidly racist. i am sure there are people who date interracially down there but still use the N word to describe black people. I too am from the south and go home often and the so called liberal white southerner is still a bigot compared to someone from a more progressive and educated part of the world. dont be fooled, many of these people are either experimenting with black men, or doing it as a joke.

Great advice, but I was onto her the whole time. I just couldn't swallow any of that garbage she was feeding any of us, let alone the crap in that article she was defending.

 

[LaydeezmanCris]

you have to remember sardonic, that sabine is a white woman living in the southern state of Tennessee. they are not very forward thinking and many are still quite rabidly racist. i am sure there are people who date interracially down there but still use the N word to describe black people. I too am from the south and go home often and the so called liberal white southerner is still a bigot compared to someone from a more progressive and educated part of the world. dont be fooled, many of these people are either experimenting with black men, or doing it as a joke.

Umm as a matter of fact tuckerreed, you have to know that dating a black man and tolerating black people are two completely different things. Just because a white woman dates black men does not necessarily mean she likes black men. Is the attraction of one to the other based purely on an individual's preference? Or is it, as some would call, "the fever?" If it is an individual choice based on the merits, needs, and desires of the two people involved, no real harm done. But if it is a decision rooted in myth, novelty, or the forbidden fruit complex, there are destined to be psychological casualties. Given the history of race relations in America, it is difficult at best, to view former slave and former slave master arm-in-arm without some type of gut reaction.
I'd like you to know that a lot of white women do date black men "just to see what its like". Some do it just for sexual reasons which is extremely appalling. I had a friend who once wanted to use me as an object rather than see me as a person. She had flings with white guys and broke up with them all and one day, decided to "have a change"-"as she put it". So, she told me to always hold her passionately whenever that guy comes around, kiss her and tell her how beautiful she was to make him upset because she was going out with a black man . What was my answer? No. I didnt say no because i wanted to upset her. I didnt say no because i was mad. I said no because that was a jab at my intellect, manhood and personality. I said no because i found it racist. I didnt want to be treated as an object but as a person. She even told me that she wanted to get "an upgrade in size and i walked away from her. Why did i say that? Well, quite frankly, i think all the brothas on this site already know why.
Some people think that racism is merely hatred. I say no. Racism is the belief that people of different races differ in value, that these differences can be measured on a ranked, hierarchical scale, and that result in the social, political, and economic advantage of one group in relation to others. The belief that the character and abilities of individuals are correlated with their race is not necessarily racism, since this can be asserted without implying an inequality in value. Objectifying people as mere sex tools is racist because it demoralizes their existence as humans. Just because a person sleeps with, dates and even marries black men in itself doesnt make them any less racist than the normal conservative white if their motives behind the interaction was purely out of superficial reasons. I am not from the south so i cannot say much but my grandparents were slaves in Georgia and Mississippi so its safe to say i know about all the Jim Crow from them.

 

[Sabinne]

Well, you all seem to think there's something wrong with the way I think, so I'll do my best to re-examine myself. Maybe it is wrong to think someones skin is beautiful...I didn't think it was, but apparently I'm wrong. I doubt that I'll stop noticing whether a person has lovely skin or not, but I'll at least be sure that I don't mention it. I'd hate for them to think it was a racial bias instead of an observation.

I do find white skin attractive on a woman

Do you know the difference between being attracted to someone's body part, or simply the color of their skin? Seems like you don't...

**Your skin is a body part--in fact, it's the largest organ in the human body.

 

[tuckerreed]

Cris, what you said was brilliant and it has happened to me on several occasions esp back in Univerisity. Unfortunately, it is not just southern white women who do it, i went to University and Graduate School up north and it was like that there. Lots of them assumed that the racist stereotype of black mens size applied to all black men and that is was cool to try it out. they also would say things like "your skin is nice next to mine, which isnt necessarily an insult but when they dont mention anything else but the physical then they are inching ever close to the racist line.

there are too many brothas being used on campuses to play ball and viewed as the example of all black males as some animal stud, i dont see these same women going after the intellectual and the enlightened brothas busting his hump to get a degree or the middle class brotha who fits into the University naturally. No, it is the athlete or the musical guy. but whoa to the brotha accused of sexual misconduct or worse, rape--then its a field day against all black men on campus as it was in 1991 at the University of New York at New Paltz. a black guy was accused of sexual assault at a frat party, the campus and town police stopped every brotha in the town and profiled them, embarrassed them, treated them like scum--come to find out it was the girls boyfriend from New York city up for the weekend and they got in a fight and she started screaming.

 

[Sabinne]

Something like that happened here in Tennessee to my best friend's brother. He was attending college here and had a one night stand with one of his professors. The professor's husband found out and she said it was rape. My best friend's brother is now serving ten years.

Normally, I wouldn't offer any opinion about the matter, except that I'd been spending weekend's at my friends house since I was eight years old and I knew her brother quite well. He was always nice, always polite and funny. He never once did a thing to harm a woman he dated or a woman around him. I know his conviction was based more on the fact that he was black than the facts of the case. The sad thing is that if he had pleaded guilty, he would have been out in six months. He simply refused to plead guilty to something he didn't do.

 

[tuckerreed]

Yes, sabine that is the point--that women should love the entire man, not just his color but his personality, his culture and heritage not just to appease a stereotypical lust or fantasy or use someone to get off on.

I think it is wrong for black men to do it and for whites to do it too. like I hear lots of white men talk about their asian fetish, its all about sex with the asian woman and the stereotypes of them being like little boys and subservient. that is so disgusting and degrading to hear. they dont care about the women or their culture

 

[SardonicGenie]

Well, you all seem to think there's something wrong with the way I think, so I'll do my best to re-examine myself. Maybe it is wrong to think someones skin is beautiful...I didn't think it was, but apparently I'm wrong. I doubt that I'll stop noticing whether a person has lovely skin or not, but I'll at least be sure that I don't mention it. I'd hate for them to think it was a racial bias instead of an observation.

I do find white skin attractive on a woman

Do you know the difference between being attracted to someone's body part, or simply the color of their skin? Seems like you don't...

**Your skin is a body part--in fact, it's the largest organ in the human body.

We were only protesting the contents of the article Susan wrote because she only wants black men for sex, and you are still defending it, saying something else, as if you are too slow to understand what we are saying also. What part of that don't you still get?

And, skin is not an organ in the human body, like a heart. Everyone knows that.

 

[SardonicGenie]

you have to remember sardonic, that sabine is a white woman living in the southern state of Tennessee. they are not very forward thinking and many are still quite rabidly racist. i am sure there are people who date interracially down there but still use the N word to describe black people. I too am from the south and go home often and the so called liberal white southerner is still a bigot compared to someone from a more progressive and educated part of the world. dont be fooled, many of these people are either experimenting with black men, or doing it as a joke.

Umm as a matter of fact tuckerreed, you have to know that dating a black man and tolerating black people are two completely different things.

Yes.

Just because a white woman dates black men does not necessarily mean she likes black men.

This is very prevalent among many white women who only want black men for sex.

Is the attraction of one to the other based purely on an individual's preference? Or is it, as some would call, "the fever?" If it is an individual choice based on the merits, needs, and desires of the two people involved, no real harm done. But if it is a decision rooted in myth, novelty, or the forbidden fruit complex, there are destined to be psychological casualties.

Score again.

Given the history of race relations in America, it is difficult at best, to view former slave and former slave master arm-in-arm without some type of gut reaction.
I'd like you to know that a lot of white women do date black men "just to see what its like". Some do it just for sexual reasons which is extremely appalling.

And, sometimes they brag about it too, even in news articles. :roll:

I had a friend who once wanted to use me as an object rather than see me as a person. She had flings with white guys and broke up with them all and one day, decided to "have a change"-"as she put it". So, she told me to always hold her passionately whenever that guy comes around, kiss her and tell her how beautiful she was to make him upset because she was going out with a black man . What was my answer? No. I didnt say no because i wanted to upset her. I didnt say no because i was mad. I said no because that was a jab at my intellect, manhood and personality. I said no because i found it racist. I didnt want to be treated as an object but as a person. She even told me that she wanted to get "an upgrade in size and i walked away from her. Why did i say that? Well, quite frankly, i think all the brothas on this site already know why.
Some people think that racism is merely hatred. I say no. Racism is the belief that people of different races differ in value, that these differences can be measured on a ranked, hierarchical scale, and that result in the social, political, and economic advantage of one group in relation to others. The belief that the character and abilities of individuals are correlated with their race is not necessarily racism, since this can be asserted without implying an inequality in value. Objectifying people as mere sex tools is racist because it demoralizes their existence as humans. Just because a person sleeps with, dates and even marries black men in itself doesnt make them any less racist than the normal conservative white if their motives behind the interaction was purely out of superficial reasons. I am not from the south so i cannot say much but my grandparents were slaves in Georgia and Mississippi so its safe to say i know about all the Jim Crow from them.

I completely concur with all of this.

 

[tuckerreed]

one need only look at the pathetic and sick "Personal Posts" by females who are already married and want to use a black man and have their white husbands watch and tape. what the hell is that all about? Do these white men have such low self esteem that they can only sit back and get off as their wives are dominated by what they think is an Animal?

 

[Sabinne]

Well, you all seem to think there's something wrong with the way I think, so I'll do my best to re-examine myself. Maybe it is wrong to think someones skin is beautiful...I didn't think it was, but apparently I'm wrong. I doubt that I'll stop noticing whether a person has lovely skin or not, but I'll at least be sure that I don't mention it. I'd hate for them to think it was a racial bias instead of an observation.

I do find white skin attractive on a woman

Do you know the difference between being attracted to someone's body part, or simply the color of their skin? Seems like you don't...

**Your skin is a body part--in fact, it's the largest organ in the human body.

We were only protesting the contents of the article Susan wrote because she only wants black men for sex, and you are still defending it, saying something else, as if you are too slow to understand what we are saying also. What part of that don't you still get?

And, skin is not an organ in the human body, like a heart. Everyone knows that.

How am I still defending it? Tell me. You're pissed because I proved what a racist you are.

Skin is an organ. Please, look it up if you're too stubborn to believe me.