Some BM Still Intimidated by WW

I'm not the acknowledge expert on this one. On more than one occasion I've had conversations with black men who never had an intimate relationship with a white female. There is a intimidation factor that still exist among many black men who are afraid to ask a white female out on a date or to start up a relationship with them for the fear of rejection. I tell the ones I know that they need to take the first step. Yes, it may turn out that you will be rejected, but you will never know if you do not try. Some black men fear being seen out in public with a white female for fear of resentment of black females and society in general. Is it a case of lack of courage? In some cases it is. I tell those who fear what others may think to tune them out. White females today are so open and are willing to give you a chance. I tell them (black guys) you have to respect them. Respect is the key weapon to have on your side with all women. There is so much stereotype thrown out there on us that I believe much of it is purposeful to discourage white females from interacting with us. I wish more white females would speak out on their choice to see and be with whom they choose. A few days ago on radio station "WNIS" out of Norfolk, Virginia, a radio talk show, a caller called to in bring up the issue on those black males and white females at a local high school who had their pictures taken together that went viral on the internet with a comment on what would be a white father's worst nightmare. He said that "this interracial thing is going too far". I say the era of intimidation is over. For those black men who are afraid, love the one you are with. Don't be afraid. She might surprise you with a "yes". If she is not afraid of what her parents think, then she is not afraid of what the world thinks.

 

Many WW may not think BM are even interested in dating them. I was surprised when I started dating again that I was getting a a lot lot of interest from BM.

 

I had roommates who didn't think I liked white girls

A bunch of the boys used to try to hook me up for social functions and all but just assumed that i was gay or not into the women around campus

I've also ran into ww who were intimidated by me and said I was unapproachable even tho they were interested (doesn't make sense, I know)

 

You need to stop eyeballing those white women with the Deebo Deathstare & Grin.....

 

lol. classic

 

3 reasons.

1. ww with a gun

 

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I don't think it is about intimidation in bm approaching ww. This trepidation began at home. My mother tried to warn me about the dangers of IR from her perspective when she was growing up. She mentioned Emmett Till and other incidents where young black men were never seen again after such meetings, assumed and or realized. It is not the ww. It is the white people( and sometimes other people including black people) around her. Some are curious, some are resentful, some are supportive and some don't care.


You have only one life. Live it. Don't live your life for others who have no idea of who you are and how you are feeling or thinking.

 

Sonny "Tiny" Lister. LOL

 

What's up, Smoke? What's up, Craig? What y'all got on my forty?

 

Lol

Is that the black guy from the "Love Boat" as your avi pic?

 

Hahaha, nah, that's the late Maelo, one of my favorite singers. Dang, that reference to Ted Lange from "Love Boat" takes me waaaaay back.

 

Didn't mean to disrespect Maelo. Lol. R.I.P.

 

No disrespect taken. Check out some of his tunes sometime. Now I've got the "Love Boat" theme stuck in my head.

 

This is me with WW lol. I do attract some, but I don't know who & when I even attract them. And I'll admit I'm a shy & quiet guy too lol, so pretty much all of the time it has to be the woman who starts up the conversation and I'll continue it from there.

 

Don't forget about the whole OJ and Kobe cases,too.

 

OJ ain't do it

 

This was way before O.J. and Kobe. My mother was very afraid even though she tried hard not to show it.

 

I don't blame her.There has always been a weird stigma against Black men/White women relations.There was a dude who shot Larry Flint with a sniper back in the days all because he had a Black man/White women coupling in Hustler.That same guy also shot down a few Black male/White female couples in Salt Lake city.Forgot his name.