Feeling Guilty About Attraction to White Women?

StephanieMarie said:
lol I'll keep that in mind boys...thanks for reassuring me I won't be lonely in either of the big cities :smt022
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On a serious note. Either city would be good for a job in marketing/advertising. I used to take a acting class with with this hot lil blonde, and she had a successful marketing/advertising career out here in the chi. If you come to Chicago, atleast you wont be as far away from your fam. Chicago aint shit but a mini Nyc, but both places are great.
 
Kushton Slater said:
On a serious note. Either city would be good for a job in marketing/advertising. I used to take a acting class with with this hot lil blonde, and she had a successful marketing/advertising career out here in the chi. If you come to Chicago, atleast you wont be as far away from your fam. Chicago aint shit but a mini Nyc, but both places are great.
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The homesick angle. Well played my friend lol
 
StephanieMarie said:
A lot of my close guy friends (friends, mind you, that I have known since I was 10 years old) told me that if I ended up having mixed kids that they wouldn't want anything to do with them. That was probably the most hurtful. Other things had to do with just biggotted remarks....dropping the N-word freely when talking about guys I was seeing....making racist jokes and then telling me to "lighten up" when I wouldn't laugh or tell them to keep those jokes to themselves....

The most common thing I've heard from girls and guys alike....even my own SISTER.... "When are you gonna get out of this BLACK phase??"
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Your experiences mirror those that the WW I have dated. I dated a younger WW through the encouragement of some mutual friends. When we started to date she wanted to show me off to all of her friends. She would tell everybody about me, even strangers. We lived in the same small town and we knew a lot of the same people. So, she was shocked that many of the white people that spoke highly of me as a person before we started seeing each other, attacked her for dating me.

Her family was openly racist, but she thought that most other people did not have the same feelings. She began to see that many people accept black men on certain levels but, when it comes to sex, marriage, and bi-racial children all of the sudden everyone has an opinion and it was often negative.

I have posted before of my admiration for WW who have the commitment and strength to fight for their right to love BM or whomever they please. In a society that still wants to limit and control BM (even Pres. Obama takes more shit than a bellhop!) it is pleasing to be accepted completely, without limitations by so many beautiful women.
 
desreveRsIgnitirW said:
The way the game is played is,its basically ok for a nonblack guy to be with a black woman but as soon as a black guy gets with a nonblack woman,its problems.

Its gotten to the point now where men who ARE NOT WHITE are trying to keep white women away from black men. The guy in this video is from some where on the asian continent and is hating on Ww preferring black men over them Asians.

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I've noticed that a lot of nonblack "men" seem to find bm a threat not just in dating ww but in all kinds of situations. All the hating going on makes no damn sense. The fool in this video makes no sense either!

StephanieMarie said:
I agree with your idea that these comments are directly tied to degrading BM as well, but I think that a huge part of the origination of these comments do in fact have to something to do with the women being white. In conversations I've had with non-black men since dating BM, once the topics change to my past dating history suddenly I am viewed as "damaged goods" because I have an attraction to black men. I was actually asked by a very good friend that if I did eventually marry a WM, was I worried that he would constantly be worried that I would cheat on him with BM.....as though its some addiction or terrible syndrome I need to "control".
I think that WW should take these comments extremely personally. It takes a strong woman (and man for that matter) to do something outside of the "social norms" for our own happiness. Therefore, when people degrade this strength by saying things like we're overweight, have low self-esteem, or we're trashy and that's why we date IR, this overshadows everything good about BM/WW relationships.
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Amen.
I've gotten a lot of grief for my choice to date bm, and a lot of people do treat it like I have some kind of disease! It's like I've been infected with black cooties or something! I still get called n-lover on a regular basis where I live; of course most of the time it's not to my face. I agree that it takes a strong woman (& man) to have the guts to be happy. I refuse to let the comments & views of these small minded fools to overshadow anything for me. It gets old but it doesn't phase me anymore! And as far as the low self-esteem assessment goes, I believe that only a person with a strong sense of self would have the confidence to date/marry interracially if they so choose.

"Trey1540, post: 381552"]I know you're a very intelligent lady IB and I got the utmost respect for you.


They use that "damaged goods" and "tainted" lines to make you regret ever dating or wanting to date black guy. It's nothing more than insecurity and jealously. I don't think people realize how strong some WW have to be to date BM. My ex girlfriend go disowned by her family when they found we were messing around. They were disgusted by the idea of us being in a relationship. Through all of that bullshit she stuck by me. Even to this day she says she got Italian guys around her way calling her the nigger lover. What pisses me off is none of these non black dudes never approach the black man. They always go to the female and talk shit to her, which is a bitch move if you ask me.


I can't tell you what and what not to take personally. Just understand that I view those niggas as a bunch bitches that's not man enough to tell us stay away from white women. So they talk shit to you because they talking shit to us might have consequences. Basically, ya just caught in the middle. However, you're right, that's why I love, respect, and appreciate all the white women that stick by us. Being a black man is this country is hard and takes a lot of strength to walk in our shoes or stick by us.
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We also love, respect & appreciate the beautiful, strong black men who are willing to put themselves out there to love us!


StephanieMarie said:
Of course not....which is why those friendships ended pretty quickly. I don't really tolerate ignorance or racism and as far as I saw it, if they were willing to say such hurtful things about men that obviously meant something to me...what things were they capable of saying about me when I was out of the room
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StephanieMarie said:
A lot of my close guy friends (friends, mind you, that I have known since I was 10 years old) told me that if I ended up having mixed kids that they wouldn't want anything to do with them. That was probably the most hurtful. Other things had to do with just biggotted remarks....dropping the N-word freely when talking about guys I was seeing....making racist jokes and then telling me to "lighten up" when I wouldn't laugh or tell them to keep those jokes to themselves....

The most common thing I've heard from girls and guys alike....even my own SISTER.... "When are you gonna get out of this BLACK phase??"
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It's so tiresome to be constantly analyzed and told how to fix what these people see as a flawed way of life. It seems that not a day goes by without people demanding an explanation that no one owes them.

"botoan, post: 381796"]Your experiences mirror those that the WW I have dated. I dated a younger WW through the encouragement of some mutual friends. When we started to date she wanted to show me off to all of her friends. She would tell everybody about me, even strangers. We lived in the same small town and we knew a lot of the same people. So, she was shocked that many of the white people that spoke highly of me as a person before we started seeing each other, attacked her for dating me.


Her family was openly racist, but she thought that most other people did not have the same feelings. She began to see that many people accept black men on certain levels but, when it comes to sex, marriage, and bi-racial children all of the sudden everyone has an opinion and it was often negative.


I have posted before of my admiration for WW who have the commitment and strength to fight for their right to love BM or whomever they please. In a society that still wants to limit and control BM (even Pres. Obama takes more shit than a bellhop!) it is pleasing to be accepted completely, without limitations by so many beautiful women.
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That's what real women do! If someone (man or woman) is unwilling to fight for the person he/she claims to love, that love is not real.

That's what bothers me most about people that date IR (or otherwise) for the wrong reasons. I used to have a friend who dated bm for every reason but love. She liked the attention she got because she did it for the novelty & shock value it had. She thrived on the stereotypes and the negative attention, and it made me sick! I'm sure we've all known people like this. It's just another issue that makes things tougher for those of us who are serious.
 
Tamstrong said:
I've noticed that a lot of nonblack "men" seem to find bm a threat not just in dating ww but in all kinds of situations. All the hating going on makes no damn sense. The fool in this video makes no sense either!
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With emphasis on the epithet FOOL!!!!


Tamstrong said:
I've gotten a lot of grief for my choice to date bm, and a lot of people do treat it like I have some kind of disease! It's like I've been infected with black cooties or something! I still get called n-lover on a regular basis where I live; of course most of the time it's not to my face! I agree that it takes a strong woman (& man) to have the guts to be happy. I refuse to let the comments & views of these small minded fools to overshadow anything for me. It gets old but it doesn't phase me anymore! And as far as the low self-esteem assesment goes, I believe that only a person with a HIGH self-esteem would have the confidence to date/marry interracially if they so choose.
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:smt023

Trey1540 said:
I know you're a very intelligent lady IB and I got the utmost respect for you.

They use that "damaged goods" and "tainted" lines to make you regret ever dating or wanting to date black guy. It's nothing more than insecurity and jealously. I don't think people realize how strong some WW have to be to date BM. My ex girlfriend go disowned by her family when they found we were messing around. They were disgusted by the idea of us being in a relationship. Through all of that bullshit she stuck by me. Even to this day she says she got Italian guys around her way calling her the nigger lover. What pisses me off is none of these non black dudes never approach the black man. They always go to the female and talk shit to her, which is a bitch move if you ask me.

I can't tell you what and what not to take personally. Just understand that I view those niggas as a bunch bitches that's not man enough to tell us stay away from white women. So they talk shit to you because they talking shit to us might have consequences. Basically, ya just caught in the middle. However, you're right, that's why I love, respect, and appreciate all the white women that stick by us. Being a black man is this country is hard and takes a lot of strength to walk in our shoes or stick by us.
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Amen to *that!!*

Tamstrong said:
We also love, respect & appreciate the beautiful, strong black men who are willing to put themselves out there to love us!






It's so tiresome to be constantly analyzed and told how to fix what these people see as a flawed way of life. It seems that not a day goes by without people demanding an explanation that no one owes them.



That's what real women do! If someone (man or woman) is unwilling to fight for the person he/she claims to love, that love is not real!

That's what bothers me most about people that date IR (or otherwise) for the wrong reasons. I used to have a friend who dated bm for every reason but love! She liked the attention she got because she did it for the novelty & shock value it had. She thrived on the stereotypes and the negative attention, and it made me sick! I'm sure we've all known people like this. It's just another issue that makes things tougher for those of us who are serious.
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That so-called "friend" of yours....casts more aspersions towards IRRs than the detractors that openly/inentionallly/blatantly ad infinitum do such actions towards same...


In one word, your alleged "friend":

FUBAR!!!!!

And as for all else expounded upon by all....



Well said!!!!


'Nuff Said!!!!















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AnMDBCartoon said:
Tht so-called "friend" of yours....casts more aspersions towards IRRs than the detractors that openly/inentionallly/blatantly ad infinitum do such actions towards same...


In one word, your alleged "friend":

FUBAR!!!!!

And as for all else expounded upon by all....



Well said!!!!


'Nuff Said!!!!













OpinionsCartoonStudios@Yahoo.Co.UK
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I agree because we have to deal with enough negativity as it is without dealing with toxic people in our midst!

Please note: As I said about the previously mentioned skank, she used to be my friend , as in not any more, since I learned how full of shit she was!
 
Tamstrong said:
I agree because we have to deal with enough negativity as it is without dealing with toxic people in our midst!
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So true.....


Still & all, always remember...


That which does not kill us...makes us stronger...


And this also includes detractors and adversaries, as well...

Tamstrong said:
Please note: As I said about the previously mentioned skank, she used to be my friend , as in not any more, since I learned how full of shit she was!
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Past tense, good.


Just remember the words of "IF YOU WANT THE SUN TO SHINE" by The SMITHEREENS:

When You Pass Me On The Street,
I'll Look The Other Way!



'Nuff Said!!!!


















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Do I feel guilty for liking white women, not at all, but am I guilty of liking white women, hell 2 the fuck yes. Seriously, how can you not like white women...they are beautiful.
 
Tony Soprano said:
I wish a muthafucka would feel guilty about loving white women. Child please.
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As fine as these white women is, I wish a muthafucka WOULD leave they ass!!!!!


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Feeling guilty about liking WW is like feeling guilty for being a man, you are supposed to like beautiful women and with so many beautiful WW in the world you are going to like them by default, you don't have a choice.

But if you insist on feeling guilty, don't worry there is an army of Brothas like me who will not deny ourselves.
 
botoan said:
Feeling guilty about liking WW is like feeling guilty for being a man, you are supposed to like beautiful women and with so many beautiful WW in the world you are going to like them by default, you don't have a choice.

But if you insist on feeling guilty, don't worry there is an army of Brothas like me who will not deny ourselves.
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there are a lot of us WW out here, who are oh so glad... :smt060
 
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