I would hate to keep this blame party goin', but here I go:
7Seven,
It seems that in the majority of your posts on the site, you start off with a blunt assertion, and then run on that when someone replies to you, only for you to misspell certain words, use incorrect pronunciation, and even misspell the screen names of other members on the site, not to mention your constant diagnosis diatribes, about how other members are, and what they say to you on the site, which seems to be a common trend with you here. You don't have to recite what 'rules' are to be played in a debate, and what someone else is always 'doing wrong' in every one of your messages to them.
Sengo,
You keep saying that leksie is back tracking, but you continue to put words in her mouth about what she says and how she means it, causing her to explain over and over again, what she was saying to you, and so far, you and 7Seven have been much more emotional than she has been throughout this overly digressed thread. I did, and still do agree with most of your points, but they are all, for the last time, misdirected, and venting on leksie doesn't change what you've been though with other white women(foreign or not) so I don't understand what you are hoping to accomplish here.
Leksie,
The problem with what you say is that you feel the need to justify everything you say to Sengo, hoping to explain again and again, what you mean, when you have already made it clear that you don't feel comfortable with a black man who resents black women because of their personal encounters with black women, and that's fine, but if you ever meet a black man who DOES resent black women, do NOT assume that he's just 'being an ass because he craves white women'. Most of these guys who have had one bad experience after another with black women are actually telling the truth, but there are quite a few (Jaydun, flaminghetero, black prince, etc.) who like to exaggerate what they say about black women, however, it doesn't cancel out the points they make regardless, and 7Seven himself actually agrees with me on that note. Also, there are white women who have had VERY SIMILAR experiences with black women, that a lot of black men have had, but when they speak out about it, it is accepted, but when black men speak out about it, they are constantly criticized, made to feel defeated, and self-loathing, so much to the point that many brothas become just as pussy-whipped by white women, as much as tons of white men do (but that's usually the white men's fault), and are often too 'chicken shit' to even stand up to them, whenever the white women get out of line somehow in some way, but this same thing also goes for black men who deal with black women, whom they so-call 'bash', but if I had a dime for all the black women in the world WHO ARE WORSE in their bashing, but LOVE to project it, then I would have a good amount of change saved up for a rainy day.
Not enough American black women/men keep in mind the success rate of same-color black couples, versus white ones.
The truth of the matter is, no matter what or how a black man goes about anything in life, he's damned if he does, and damned if he doesn't, and because so many brothas don't know how to deal with it, arguments like these surface over and over again, and these arguments get NO ONE everywhere.